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    Is it Time for Society to Stop Parading its Sexual Purity?

    It is often prevalent among most people, this almost sacred idea of sexual purity that must be maintained. The idea itself almost seems synonymous with traditional values and morals that we display to our children and then eventually that generation will spread it to the next. However, the main point is the absurdity of it all. Why must I regard anything sexually promiscuous with contempt or disgust or else face social ostracism from others? Of course this specific example would vary greatly depending on those around, however it is clear that there does certainly exist a majority populace that would respond negatively. More importantly, why I am the one to face this opposition for only recognizing what is so blatantly obvious? That we are a promiscuous species that likes sex. Why must be hide our children from sex for fear they will...what? We seem to have no problem showing them violence and hatred on television ( for one example). More courageously I would also point out the problem ( on a personal level) with keeping sex a private ordeal. In order to avoid making a sweep generalization, I would point out perhaps obviously people's problem is their insecurities prevent them from being open about their sexually lives, but that seems too narrow-minded to assert that alone is cause for it. Rather I find it more likely the social mechanism that keeps people in-line with their sexual purity is what drives them to think of sex as a milestone and huge ordeal when it is only hyped to be as such. In conclusion, it seems apparent in the recent decades that the idea of being more sexually-positive ( for lack of a better word) is growing, and question why we have to act in such ways to hide/achieve sex.

    I feel as if I have rambled in this post, however hopefully someone who has or once has understood the conflict I'm facing about this subject could clarify.

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    It is often prevalent among most people, this almost sacred idea of sexual purity that must be maintained.
    I'm not sure where you live but this is a far-from-common sentiment here in New Jersey.

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    Being open about sex is one thing; being promiscuous is another. Promiscuity is not a good thing, and it never will be.

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    Quote Quote by: Kodiak View Post
    Why must I regard anything sexually promiscuous with contempt or disgust or else face social ostracism from others?
    I think, and I may be wrong, that you're looking at promiscuity exclusively from a moral angle. What about responsibility to public health, both your own and others; both physical and emotional? A pre-teen and most teens are physically capable of having sex, but rarely responsible enough to use protection or handle the myriad of relationship feelings that sex fosters. We see teen pregnancies, STDs, and emotional problems that society must handle.

    True, Americans from older generations take a puritanical approach to sex and that has a way of encouraging more sexual behavior in their rebellious offspring. But given the alternative, youth promiscuity, the puritanical approach has its positives. Unfortunately the inability of many parents to actually parent sexual behavior and treat it openly and responsibly with their kids often leads to more problems later in their lives.

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    I agree that active efforts to hid/disguise sexual activity from kids and others is going against the grain in a sense, but I think modesty is important. No need to go out of your way to flaunt it.

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    It's a fascinating trait that humans have in comparison to other organisms, even other primates, that we like our sex private. That it is culturally ubiquitous suggests we have an inclination for it, and I don't think society will ever condone acts of public sex.

    Sexual purity, or virginity or sexual monogamy, is no longer celebrated. Rather it is stigmatised. If a person plans on settling down with their first sexual partner many people voice concerns that they don't know what is out there, that they need to explore more before marrying and having kids. Promiscuity, particularly amongst females, is still stigmatised, but people are now expected to have several sexual partners within their lifetimes, which can hardly be defined as sexually pure.

    And in stark contradiction to the 60s free love spirit, sex is not unequivocally positive. Rape, STDs, Unwanted Pregnancies, Unrequited Feelings of Attachment, Jealousy, Frustration; Sex has plenty of negative aspects to it. That said I think Holland has fairly well established that an open conversation with children about sex and relationships has numerous benefits over other nations' barely concealed contempt.


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    Quote Quote by: JimmyNic View Post
    And in stark contradiction to the 60s free love spirit, sex is not unequivocally positive. Rape, STDs, Unwanted Pregnancies, Unrequited Feelings of Attachment, Jealousy, Frustration; Sex has plenty of negative aspects to it.
    Driving automobiles has far more negative consequences, given the injury and death rate, than sex. Why don't we stigmatize automobiles? Just wonderin'.

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    Quote Quote by: barts View Post
    Driving automobiles has far more negative consequences, given the injury
    and death rate, than sex.
    Why don't we stigmatize automobiles?
    Controlling sexuality is one of the more primitive forms of oppression, but it's also one of the more prevalent. I agree that we shouldn't be boinking everyone and everything, but I think people are too afraid of having sex for fun. Then again, I'm a 30 year old man who has barely gotten any sex, so maybe I'm a bit biased in this discussion.

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    Quote Quote by: barts View Post
    Driving automobiles has far more negative consequences, given the injury and death rate, than sex. Why don't we stigmatize automobiles? Just wonderin'.
    Humans are naturally more interested in sex than cars. We are built that way. While few people have much to say about cars, everybody has an opinion on sex. People are raised to believe sex is very important, and in evolutionary terms it is obvious why this is the case. I don't deny automobiles are also very important and probably worthy of greater scorn then we give them, but humans are not known for their ability to see the wood for the trees.

    Also the relative dangers of the automobile does not undermine sex as worthy of stigma.


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