"Hey Sexual Predator"

My housemates threw a party last night. I walked into this hallway where two tall skinny cute girls and a guy were standing. As soon as the dark haired girl saw me she said "Hey sexual predator" in a comfortable tone.

Usually i adore being hit on by girls. She was hot and i'd make out with her still but i was not ready for what she said. it made me uncomfortable and was embarassing. at first i didn't know if she was hitting on me or making fun of me. i believe she wanted me to respond favorably, but i looked up and away and said something unimportant, perhaps to relieve pressure and attention from myself.

when i hit on girls i feel rude. seeking sex seems a rude activity for males. but as a man in society i am 'expected' to make these relationships. i am expected to hit on women. i am expected but not allowed to check women out. i don't want to cause women uncomfortability by looking at them. that makes me feel crappy and creepy.

i have this image of a guy bugging a girl for sex or a date and she rejecting him and being annoyed. that man is the lowliest most pandering and most scornful image in society, outside of violence and hate. i will not risk becoming anything like that even for a moment. to ask me to do so is wrong. i am here to make girls excstatic, not to be an unwelcome pest.

i don't want to be a sexual predator. sexual predators i know resort to being douchbags to get sex. my dad was so rude whenever he talked about sexual topics. it made me want to reject everything about sex in society.

i'd like to have sex a lot and be loved by women, but hitting on women can feel like coercion or an uncomfortably offensive gesture, and i could never do that. unless i knew it made her wet. i wish i had acted differently because it's 643am and i'm alone typing this instead of doing whatever i want to her body and building friendship and love with her.

what is wrong with me? what is wrong with culture? what did that girl expect me to say to her? if i had walked up to her and said her words how would she feel? what if i walked up to her and said "Hey Sexual Prey"? i think she would feel threatened and leave and that girls would avoid me out of fear or loathing.

[Nono]

Originally posted by Bob_Dobbs what if i walked up to her and said "Hey Sexual Prey"?

If you see her again, why don't you say exactly that? (Then you'll find out.)

I agree with your view, and the fact that a girl pulled it on you and you felt uncomfortable simply validates your refusal to do it yourself.

[Pooeypants]

I guess it's just another turn of phrase for "stud"?

Do you feel that it meant something sinister? Why is that?

"i don't want to be a sexual predator. sexual predators i know resort to being douchbags to get sex. my dad was so rude whenever he talked about sexual topics. it made me want to reject everything about sex in society."

in my past girls have been deceptive or played games about sex. i flirt but i don't play games. if a girl plays games with me i will show her the door. or rather, ride away on my bike and not talk to her again. i really won't play in the maze in her head.

halfway, i don't need girls and their crazy emotionally difficult BS and lame social habits. so i sometimes try to ignore them or avoid them. but halfway i do need them and sometimes i really need them or want them to love me and be with me. but i am unable to ask them with my mouth.

how would a mute make a sexual relationship happen? i could perhaps learn from that.

i have been aware of only few individuals who wanted my schtuff. i suppose i am a little extra cautious of all girls i want or who seem to be playing sex games with me. i am moderately good looking and pretty tall so females pay me some attention, and perhaps expect me to be more forward or socially commanding due to my physically commanding stature. i use my eyes sometimes, but i don't walk over to women. i go upstairs and stay in my room, and they eventually leave the party.

[Lava]

I think a comment like that would put me off. There are some fine looking women but mostly they have brains of chewing gum. Its almost always disappointing.


Lava ducks!

[Nono]

Lava flows.

[Inquisitor]

what if i walked up to her and said "Hey Sexual Prey"?

There is a very good chance that she might like it. The problem is women are not the same. While most detest the idea of violence, many in fact enjoy it. There are women who love to be dominated and abused, there are even outright masochists.

Women are not higher beings, there are subject to the same perversions and pathologies as men are.

So it may well be the case that this particular girl was looking for her match in terms of perversions. You are not the one? Well something tells me that she will find one easy.

[Waychel]

If I were a guy and a girl referred to me as a "sexual predator" in a pick-up line, I'd be wondering if she would be the type to cry sexual harassment or date rape on me at any given turn when I tried to put the moves on her or whatever. o_O;

What a horrendous pick-up line. =PpP Then again, I've always thought that it should be the guy to "pick-up" on a girl and not vice-versa. I have a feeling your "sexual prey" was all glitz and glam with little substance...

[Nono]

Originally posted by Inquisitor Women are not higher beings, there are subject to the same perversions and pathologies as men are.

My goodness, Inqui, we agree about something. This is worrying. :)

[Lava]

Yes, it struck me she's making unsavoury claims about you in public already!

Hopefully she was just being playful, but who knows.

Lava

[Gorgo]

Could be she just made a dumb, off-the-cuff comment like we all do. Like this one, maybe.

[Suburbanite]

Originally posted by Lava, I think a comment like that would put me off. There are some fine looking women but mostly they have brains of chewing gum. Its almost always disappointing. Lava ducks!

I agree. The other day however I met this really interesting girl. I was in my Astronomy class ignoring the teacher and reading Milan Kundera's The Book of Laughter and Forgetting. I was so inspired at one point I tried to explain a part of the book to a gentlemen I sit next to frequently. Once I started explaining it, I realized I had neither the time nor the appropriate audience to really express the books meaning, so what came off what a weird sentence referring to a scene in which Kundera's favorite character in the book is being molested by children. Now, that scene is not what you think it is based on that sentence, though that is precisely how you would be able to describe it in one sentence. A girl overheard me and came up to me later. She said she has a hard time finding intelligent people to talk with, which I sympathized with her about as I most certainly agree. She was cute, but didn't want to seem too forthright so she didn't give me her phone number, just her AIM screen name, which I thought was weird. She told me her name as well, Abby; and for anyone who knows me they know remembering names is not something I put effort into. But for some reason I repeated her name over and over again in my head so I wouldn't forget. Then we met up online a few days later and had a wonderful conversation in which, to my surprise, I realized I might have just met an attractive and amazingly intelligent woman.

[macnpat]

Originally posted by Bob_Dobbs, My housemates threw a party last night. I walked into this hallway where two tall skinny cute girls and a guy were standing. As soon as the dark haired girl saw me she said "Hey sexual predator" in a comfortable tone. Usually i adore being hit on by girls. She was hot and i'd make out with her still but i was not ready for what she said. it made me uncomfortable and was embarassing. at first i didn't know if she was hitting on me or making fun of me. i believe she wanted me to respond favorably, but i looked up and away and said something unimportant, perhaps to relieve pressure and attention from myself.

Geeezz, MEN!!

You said yourself the girls were tall, skinny, cute, hot and you'd make out with her. Now, don't you think she saw that in your eyes and that was what prompted her to comment? You were most likely oogling to have gotten such a descript reaction. Also, you looked away cause you probably felt guilty, or busted.

But you ain't your Dad. You can oogle. Just be aware that women are instinctively perceptive when it comes to being noticed by guys.

Blow it off and enjoy looking at pretty gurls. They appreciate good taste!!

[Lava]

But that doesnt make someone a predator.

Lava

[Samildanach]

Hmmm, the only problem with women is that they are all illusion. They pretty themselves up to try to make you think they are all light angeldust and air when the reality is they are one big bundle of nagging trouble which festers underneath that delightful exterior.

[Suburbanite]

married?

[Samildanach]

nope thank god. :)

[syracusa]

Originally posted by Bob_Dobbs, i'd like to have sex a lot and be loved by women, but hitting on women can feel like coercion or an uncomfortably offensive gesture

Well...you most probably will be (loved by the right one).
You almost sound like my husband and believe me, you sound right.

He has the most qualities per 1 man that I have ever encountered in my entire life ... and he always used to tell me how mucb he hates these pressures to act like a macho "predator".
He has a very healthy sex drive and interests but he has never had un unhealthy mind.
Stay away from that creepy "macho" way of acting - in reality there are fewer men who actually espouse it compared to those who don't.
And this is how it should be.

"You said yourself the girls were tall, skinny, cute, hot and you'd make out with her. Now, don't you think she saw that in your eyes and that was what prompted her to comment? You were most likely oogling to have gotten such a descript reaction. Also, you looked away cause you probably felt guilty, or busted."

blaming me for that makes me feel hurt like the girl hurt me in the first place. =( she got my attention by hitting on me. help me change society instead of reinforcing anti-guy stereotypes.

[castille]

I don't get why people think its sleazy for men to hit on women.

I find it more sleazy if men pretend to be nice in hopes of having sex with a woman.