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Sbh052 · Aug 10, 2007, 11:25 pm

I am not sure if this is "gay bashing" or not.

A homosexual talks trash to you. So you talk trash back. You bring up the fact they are homosexual.

Is that gay bashing, even if they talked trash to you first?

SoylentGreen · Aug 10, 2007, 11:31 pm

What is talking trash?
If you got to the point where you want to smack him one then yes it is alright to call him anything you like after all your about to fight and the words are only a precursor

Sbh052 · Aug 10, 2007, 11:38 pm

Talking trash is like, saying derogitorty things to someone.

**Jack** · Aug 10, 2007, 11:43 pm

Is their being gay pertinent to your disagreement? If so, then I suppose any aspect of their personality is open to nasty comment. But if your disagreement is about something to which their homosexuality is completely irrelevant, then bringing it up in any fashion would signal either your inability to construct a coherent and relevant defense or your homophobia.

SoylentGreen · Aug 10, 2007, 11:43 pm

If your friends and just talking trash for the fun of it then its OK because you both understand that its not really meant.
If your enemies and you want to hit him then its OK to call the poncy little poof whatever you want to call him. After all your going to smack him one anyway which is going to hurt a lot more than any name.
What exactly is the purpose of talking trash here? Under what circumstances is this happening?

Sbh052 · Aug 11, 2007, 04:00 am

The long story short is:

He dated my best friend. They broke up. She moved on and has a new boyfriend. The ex boyfriend sent her new boyfriend a friend request on myspace. The new boyfriend sent him a message and called him an asshole and a queer for breaking her heart.
So he vented to me about my best friend. Then told me to get better friends and this and that. Thats when I started firing my amo about him being gay.

SoylentGreen · Aug 11, 2007, 06:09 am

Well, if I understand that right then I think Isherwood pretty well hit the nail on the head.

sdbest · Aug 11, 2007, 08:45 am

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Quote by: Sbh052

The long story short is:

He dated my best friend. They broke up. She moved on and has a new boyfriend. The ex boyfriend sent her new boyfriend a friend request on myspace. The new boyfriend sent him a message and called him an asshole and a queer for breaking her heart.
So he vented to me about my best friend. Then told me to get better friends and this and that. Thats when I started firing my amo about him being gay.

The new boyfriend gave the old boyfriend grief--after he got the girl? Maybe he should have thanked the old boyfriend. Talk about ungrateful.

Regards
S.

Mr.Vicchio · Aug 11, 2007, 09:50 am

It's only gay bashing if you in anyway use homosexuality in any sort of negative light. Otherwise it's okay.

Netopalis · Aug 11, 2007, 10:04 am

Wait...he's homosexual, but he dumped your best friend, who's a girl? Am I understanding this correctly? That's a bit odd..

Gods_Mercenary · Aug 11, 2007, 10:48 am

i was thinking that too, Gay bashing to me would be insulting someone or being hostile to them simply because they are gay. Calling someone gay wouldn't be gay bashing, unless the person was gay and it was intended as an insullt.

Cephus · Aug 11, 2007, 12:54 pm

No, it's two people being immature.

Marilyn Monroe · Aug 11, 2007, 05:19 pm

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Quote by: Sbh052

The long story short is:

He dated my best friend. They broke up. She moved on and has a new boyfriend. The ex boyfriend sent her new boyfriend a friend request on myspace. The new boyfriend sent him a message and called him an asshole and a queer for breaking her heart.
So he vented to me about my best friend. Then told me to get better friends and this and that. Thats when I started firing my amo about him being gay.

Guy wants to be friends, or more than friends? Maybe he's bi.

New BF should be glad he dumped the GF cause now he's got her, and she should be glad if he is indeed gay. He was saving her heartbreak.

People make no sense.

Seems you and your friends need to think the situation through a bit before getting riled up.

I'd have to think you were trying to hurt his feelings, so that would be bashing to me.

Gods_Mercenary · Aug 11, 2007, 06:13 pm

This calling each other gay seems to be all locker room talk (though it extends into all male oriented situations), since you all apparently date women.

**Jack** · Aug 11, 2007, 07:41 pm

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Quote by: Gods_Mercenary

Gay bashing to me would be insulting someone or being hostile to them simply because they are gay. Calling someone gay wouldn't be gay bashing, unless the person was gay and it was intended as an insullt.

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Quote by: Cephus

No, it's two people being immature.

I think those two posts sum this situation up pretty well. I don't know why "it's so gay" or "you're so gay" have become such popular sayings these days, but unless directed at a gay person as an insult of some sort (though calling a gay person gay is hardly insulting), I can't imagine anyone considering this gay bashing. Childish, immature, sure.

Gods_Mercenary · Aug 11, 2007, 08:47 pm

Most straight men consider being called gay somewhere between insulting their mother and insinuating they're a little small in the crotchal region. I'm used to all male environments, and "dude, you're so gay" is one of the most common statements around. This asts till the late 20s in most men, and never leaves in some.

Aug 10, 2007, 11:25 pm	#1 (permalink) (top)
Sbh052 Sedimentary Rock Location: New Hampshire Posts: 23	Gay Bashing or not? I am not sure if this is "gay bashing" or not. A homosexual talks trash to you. So you talk trash back. You bring up the fact they are homosexual. Is that gay bashing, even if they talked trash to you first?

Aug 10, 2007, 11:43 pm	#4 (permalink) (top)
Jack formerly Isherwood Location: San Diego, CA Posts: 12,817	Is their being gay pertinent to your disagreement? If so, then I suppose any aspect of their personality is open to nasty comment. But if your disagreement is about something to which their homosexuality is completely irrelevant, then bringing it up in any fashion would signal either your inability to construct a coherent and relevant defense or your homophobia. The Forum Rules Radical Atheist Tumblr Let's agree to respect each others views, no matter how wrong yours may be. (Ashleigh Brilliant)

Aug 11, 2007, 09:50 am	#9 (permalink) (top)
Mr.Vicchio Navy Veteran Location: Texas Posts: 6,031	It's only gay bashing if you in anyway use homosexuality in any sort of negative light. Otherwise it's okay. Einstein's "Theory of Relativity" is still being challenged to this day, but by consensus Global Warming is a fact... that's REAL science at work, why didn't Albert just go that route?

Aug 11, 2007, 10:48 am	#11 (permalink) (top)
Gods_Mercenary Altruism Assassin Location: Massachusetts Posts: 4,744	i was thinking that too, Gay bashing to me would be insulting someone or being hostile to them simply because they are gay. Calling someone gay wouldn't be gay bashing, unless the person was gay and it was intended as an insullt. “Only two things are infinite, the universe and human stupidity, and I'm not sure about the former.” -Albert Einstein

Aug 11, 2007, 12:54 pm	#12 (permalink) (top)
Cephus Hot Lava Location: Redlands, CA Posts: 2,258	No, it's two people being immature. Jesus loves me? No thanks, I don't swing that way. Blog Me! http://BitchSpot.JadeDragonOnline.com

Aug 10, 2007, 11:31 pm	#2 (permalink) (top)
SoylentGreen Hot Lava Posts: 2,187	What is talking trash? If you got to the point where you want to smack him one then yes it is alright to call him anything you like after all your about to fight and the words are only a precursor

Aug 10, 2007, 11:38 pm	#3 (permalink) (top)
Sbh052 Sedimentary Rock Location: New Hampshire Posts: 23	Talking trash is like, saying derogitorty things to someone.

Aug 10, 2007, 11:43 pm	#5 (permalink) (top)
SoylentGreen Hot Lava Posts: 2,187	If your friends and just talking trash for the fun of it then its OK because you both understand that its not really meant. If your enemies and you want to hit him then its OK to call the poncy little poof whatever you want to call him. After all your going to smack him one anyway which is going to hurt a lot more than any name. What exactly is the purpose of talking trash here? Under what circumstances is this happening?

Aug 11, 2007, 04:00 am	#6 (permalink) (top)
Sbh052 Sedimentary Rock Location: New Hampshire Posts: 23	The long story short is: He dated my best friend. They broke up. She moved on and has a new boyfriend. The ex boyfriend sent her new boyfriend a friend request on myspace. The new boyfriend sent him a message and called him an asshole and a queer for breaking her heart. So he vented to me about my best friend. Then told me to get better friends and this and that. Thats when I started firing my amo about him being gay.

Aug 11, 2007, 06:09 am	#7 (permalink) (top)
SoylentGreen Hot Lava Posts: 2,187	Well, if I understand that right then I think Isherwood pretty well hit the nail on the head.

Aug 11, 2007, 10:04 am	#10 (permalink) (top)
Netopalis Peculiar. Location: Bluefield, WV Posts: 179	Wait...he's homosexual, but he dumped your best friend, who's a girl? Am I understanding this correctly? That's a bit odd..

Aug 11, 2007, 06:13 pm	#14 (permalink) (top)
Gods_Mercenary Altruism Assassin Location: Massachusetts Posts: 4,744	This calling each other gay seems to be all locker room talk (though it extends into all male oriented situations), since you all apparently date women. “Only two things are infinite, the universe and human stupidity, and I'm not sure about the former.” -Albert Einstein

Aug 11, 2007, 08:47 pm	#16 (permalink) (top)
Gods_Mercenary Altruism Assassin Location: Massachusetts Posts: 4,744	Most straight men consider being called gay somewhere between insulting their mother and insinuating they're a little small in the crotchal region. I'm used to all male environments, and "dude, you're so gay" is one of the most common statements around. This asts till the late 20s in most men, and never leaves in some. “Only two things are infinite, the universe and human stupidity, and I'm not sure about the former.” -Albert Einstein