Love vs Lust

[yanieh]

It's hard to open a topic that you are not very familiar with. This is kind of awkward for me since I still consider myself too young to be engaged in this kind of discussion. However, I believe there is nothing wrong with this and it's a pretty healthy subject.

Will it really be possible to feel in-love without being in-lust? Love and Lust are two very opposite things; they stand by themselves. I've read a very good article from Calvary website showing the direct differences between the two. Love is a sacred thing while Lust is an absolute sin. How can Love stand without Lust? Is it really important to satisfy your Lust before opening yourself up for Love? Do you believe they complement each other in a way?

VERSUS: Love vs Lust

[SoylentGreen]

yaniehLove is a sacred thing while Lust is an absolute sin.

There is nothing sacred about love , nor is there anything sinful about lust
The two labels are being applied by religion. Which has no understanding or training in either concept.
They give it these labels so as to apply some control over your life, attempting to tell you that one thing is wrong the other right.

Any good healthy relationship should have a combination of the two. It is only when a person over indulges can it be harmful.

[NoonBlueApples]

It comes down to how we define words. Love has many meanings and many levels.
For what you are asking, let us say that Lust is unchecked passion. If you are doing things and you don't care who it hurts, then yes it is a sin.
Apply the golden rule to both love and lust and you will do fine.
Love thy God, love they neighbor, love your partner as you would your own body and you will be fine.
Religion gives us rules, spirituality gives us the code to live by.

[Aussie]

Lust is just the first stage heading towards love (in the context of a relationship that is) as far as I'm concerned. You often hear love at first site, nup, that's just lust. Love comes with a real bond and connection with someone that grows over time.

To say lust is a sin is straight out just ridiculous, unless you're lusting over someone else when you're in love with another, and even that's a grey area depending on the individuals circumstances as far as morality (not sin) is concerned.

[yanieh]

Lust is defined as an inordinate craving for the pleasures of the body. Isn't it part of the 7 Deadly Sins?

[Devil's Advocate]

Sure, but if you don't believe in the 7 deadly sins then it has a different definition.

[gela]

So you deeply care about a person, to the point of loving them. But you don't lust after them at all.

That's what you call friendship. You can't be in a relationship with someone you aren't attracted to. Attraction = lust.

[Rog]

Quote by: Aussie To say lust is a sin is straight out just ridiculous, unless you're lusting over someone else when you're in love with another, and even that's a grey area depending on the individuals circumstances as far as morality (not sin) is concerned.

It is or it is not, you can't pick and choose which religious base morality to accept. so if you believe lust is not a sin, it applies to all kind.

[Morality Games]

Quote by: Rog It is or it is not, you can't pick and choose which religious base morality to accept. so if you believe lust is not a sin, it applies to all kind.

Nothing is intrinsically bad, its takes a relation to something else to make it bad. Lust is only bad if it leads to immediately bad consequences, like unplanned pregnancies neither parent is ready for, or extra-marietal affairs which damage your relationship with the person with whom you established a life long companionship. In a situation where lust serves as the building bridge to a durable relationship, however, nothing bad can be said of it -- all immediate consequences of lust were good, therefore lust becomes good by association.

Overall, lust is a good thing because it motivates us to perpetuate our species even during rough times, enabling the development of our civilization.