The three lower consciousnesses that are obsessed with the securing of objects, with the chasing of sensations, and with power/control will never ever be enough. There are no actions of people that can justify our becoming irritable angry, fearful, jealous or anxious if we give them our unconditional love. If we don’t accept the unacceptable, then we lower our level of consciousness and our response will mirror their uptightness—which can spread the bad moods onto others, for moods can be contagious.
Conscious awareness, which can but witness, is a safe haven from which to observe the drama of our lives playing in our minds, granting us a sobering distance from it. From a safe subjective place that’s free of fear, our conscious awareness, one can witness the strange thoughts and emotions that surface on the mind, sent by the subconscious brain.
Putting ourselves in the place of others when hurtful things are done to us, expands our consciousness, compassion, and love since we can come to know why they did it. When we converse with ourselves, it is our higher consciousness—our conscious awareness or ‘I’, that questions our lower consciousness impulses toward securing, sensation, and power.
Seeing the big picture of life and its stages and connections lets one not get annoyed, say, at being cut off in traffic, for s/he may be old, learning, lost, growing, or angry. Putting the needs of others ahead of our own. sometimes, produces the byproduct of happiness and reduces stress, for we no longer have unrealistic expectations. Stress comes from the blindly unexpected events of what is not supposed to happen.