Profiling spouses?

[Barnicals]

So, those of us that have spouses.
I don't know about others, but I am a Kinesthetic learner. As I Love my girlfriend dearly, I try very hard to orally take in the details of her life. However, I often forget things that I really should learn or know, rather.

This may be slightly strange, but I've decided to start a profile on her (things she likes, her zodiac, favorite foods, etc.). Is this strange? Has anyone else here done things like this? Maybe tried different tactics?

I would like to hear your opinions on this.

[SoylentGreen]

I hope you make her aware of what and why you are keeping a file. Otherwise it sounds a bit like a stalker profiling a victim.
Kinisthetic learning shouldn't effect memory retention. Try mnemonics or simple repetition, rote learning.
Either way you will always find that anniversary dates are usually better remembered an more important to the female rather than the male.

[Barnicals]

Quote by: SoylentGreen I hope you make her aware of what and why you are keeping a file. Otherwise it sounds a bit like a stalker profiling a victim. Kinisthetic learning shouldn't effect memory retention. Try mnemonics or simple repetition, rote learning. Either way you will always find that anniversary dates are usually better remembered an more important to the female rather than the male.

Haha. No, don't worry, we go out with each other and all that, properly. And yeah, I just want to do it so that I don't look like I just don't care.
And the rote learning... Yeah, I may just do that.

And yeah, damn females.

I'm joking ladies. Seriously.

[Maryjane]

I see nothing strange about it... but then again..I'm a hopeless romantic. (shaddup Soylent!) Isn't the point of being IN a relationship to make each other feel special? Three cheers for intimacy!

It's admirable that you noticed you have a deficit in that department and are taking steps to rectify it. It really is the little things that count. I don't think it's a female /male thing...don't we both basically want the same thing?

[Gods_Mercenary]

I don't think it's a female /male thing...don't we both basically want the same thing?

Isn't the point of being IN a relationship to make each other feel special?

apparently not

Men and women certainly have demonstrable communication differences and priorities in small matters. I will never get some of female priorities.

[Maryjane]

I will never get some of female priorities.

Such as??

[SoylentGreen]

Quote by: Maryjane Such as??

Being hopelessly romantic

[Gods_Mercenary]

Quote by: Maryjane Such as??

Anniversaries, especially if you're only dating, is the perfect example. Then again, priorities was perhaps the wrong word, though having to communicate for no good reason is another, I can understand with your spouse or what have you, but why I need to be encouraged to call other people just to say hi is beyond me. Actually males tend to see expressions of sympathy as attacks in disguise, which I'd imagine is why we don't seek much sympathy for our problems.

[Barnicals]

Quote by: Maryjane I see nothing strange about it... but then again..I'm a hopeless romantic. (shaddup Soylent!) Isn't the point of being IN a relationship to make each other feel special? Three cheers for intimacy! It's admirable that you noticed you have a deficit in that department and are taking steps to rectify it. It really is the little things that count. I don't think it's a female /male thing...don't we both basically want the same thing?

I have to admit, I'm pretty shocking with romantisism myself. However, I don't think I will tell her (yet, anyway), as she's a reasonably practical person. Then again, I spose that means she'll see the practicality of it. Haha.

And yeah, she hates it when I forget when her shift at work finishes and things. But now I have that to add too. Hehehehe. I feel like a private investigator... or a stalker.

[Barnicals]

Quote by: Gods_Mercenary Anniversaries, especially if you're only dating, is the perfect example. Then again, priorities was perhaps the wrong word, though having to communicate for no good reason is another, I can understand with your spouse or what have you, but why I need to be encouraged to call other people just to say hi is beyond me. Actually males tend to see expressions of sympathy as attacks in disguise, which I'd imagine is why we don't seek much sympathy for our problems.

I'll definately celebrate our first year anniversary, but I would find somebody who was getting all hyped about our upcoming three month anniversary just annoying, haha.

[Rog]

Quote by: Barnicals So, those of us that have spouses. I don't know about others, but I am a Kinesthetic learner. As I Love my girlfriend dearly, I try very hard to orally take in the details of her life. However, I often forget things that I really should learn or know, rather. This may be slightly strange, but I've decided to start a profile on her (things she likes, her zodiac, favorite foods, etc.). Is this strange? Has anyone else here done things like this? Maybe tried different tactics? I would like to hear your opinions on this.

Yes go for it.
I have all this data saved on my blackberry, and all the special occasions as well. Never missed a date.

[Barnicals]

Quote by: Rog Yes go for it. I have all this data saved on my blackberry, and all the special occasions as well. Never missed a date.

Sounds like the voice of experience to me....