16 yr old boy n 13 girl old, sick? =S

[Simonius]

Quote by: Walrus When I was seventeen (a long time ago), I had a girlfriend who was just fourteen. We went round to each others houses, hung out together, I got on with her parents, it was no big deal, no one pointed accusing fingers at me, she was just my girlfriend.

Well thats quite normal, illegal but normal.

[Anmon]

Quote by: Simonius Well thats quite normal, illegal but normal.

not really when I was 16 I had a 14 yr old girlfriend for a few months, we hung out cause we liked each others company, she was a real tomboy that liked hanging out with the guys as much as with girls, and I would beat up anyone who gave her a hard time for having an older boyfriend.
We knew not to cross the boundary's of any touching because she was too young.
We ended up splitting because of the intimacy problem, and another guy had come along who was a year younger than me that she really liked( they broke up shortly after woulds)
I kissed her goodbye lips only, outside her front gate one evening, which was the only time we ever kissed.
She was a great girl, and her parents were cool as.

[rez]

Quote by: SceneThatRawwr hii soo confused all my friends says its not good, but at a drunk party i did stuff with a 13 yr girl my 15 friends mate but she doesnt look 13 she looks 17 n is soo hot n i really wanna see her again she dumped her bf for me after the night what should i do?? opinion plz?? xxxxx

You ought to learn proper English before you spread your genes.

[Chancellor]

Quote by: SceneThatRawwr hii soo confused all my friends says its not good, but at a drunk party i did stuff with a 13 yr girl my 15 friends mate but she doesnt look 13 she looks 17 n is soo hot n i really wanna see her again she dumped her bf for me after the night what should i do?? opinion plz?? xxxxx

Since 16 year-old boys are about as mature as 13 year-old girls, I don't see the problem. If it's okay for a 17 year-old boy to date a 14 year-old girl or a 25 year-old man to date a 22 year-old woman, why not a 16 year-old boy and a 13 year-old girl?

Now, if we were discussing a 50 year-old man and a 20 year-old girl (or Bill Clinton doing it with a woman young enough to be his daughter), well, that's just sick!

[another day]

Quote by: Morality Games At any rate, you taught him an invaluable lesson -- never confide your secrets, hopes, or fears to other people, especially not on the Internet, because the truth is, nobody cares about you and somewhere out there exists a soulless bureaucracy which delights in putting down the kid who was drunk.

Haha well done. I thought the same...

13 with 16? No big deal at all.

[Simonius]

Quote by: Anmon not really when I was 16 I had a 14 yr old girlfriend for a few months, we hung out cause we liked each others company, she was a real tomboy that liked hanging out with the guys as much as with girls, and I would beat up anyone who gave her a hard time for having an older boyfriend. We knew not to cross the boundary's of any touching because she was too young. We ended up splitting because of the intimacy problem, and another guy had come along who was a year younger than me that she really liked( they broke up shortly after woulds) I kissed her goodbye lips only, outside her front gate one evening, which was the only time we ever kissed. She was a great girl, and her parents were cool as.

That is a shame, it sounds like you would have been good together, perhaps you should try and give her a call and re-ignite things?

[Anmon]

Last I heard she had moved away and got married to a league player, that was over twenty years ago.
Some things just weren't meant to happen.

[Simonius]

Quote by: Anmon Last I heard she had moved away and got married to a league player, that was over twenty years ago. Some things just weren't meant to happen.

Oh sorry, sometimes I should just be quiet!

[BorisTheFerret]

On a scale of 1 to 10, I'd rate that as about a 6 in terms of sickness. A fairly so-so result.

[Simonius]

Quote by: BorisTheFerret On a scale of 1 to 10, I'd rate that as about a 6 in terms of sickness. A fairly so-so result.

I'd rate it at 1.
Two teenagers, together... hardly sick.

[Oxymoronic]

Some people see the fact that 3 years of 15 is 20% of your life so far. So I guess that's what they see when they look at a relationship in your teenage years where are 3 year gap is actually a fair amount of your life. Still I don't think there's anything to bad about it.

[LadiesMan217]

Some people see the fact that 3 years of 15 is 20% of your life so far. So I guess that's what they see when they look at a relationship in your teenage years where are 3 year gap is actually a fair amount of your life. Still I don't think there's anything to bad about it.

True, I guess I don't there isn't much of a problem with the age difference, I just remember in high school thinking that if a Junior or Senior dude had to go to the freshmen or sophomore class to get a date then they were just super lame and pathetic. Anyone with me on that?

[Walrus]

Quote by: LadiesMan217 True, I guess I don't there isn't much of a problem with the age difference, I just remember in high school thinking that if a Junior or Senior dude had to go to the freshmen or sophomore class to get a date then they were just super lame and pathetic. Anyone with me on that?

If I liked a girl and wanted to date her I couldn’t have cared less what anyone else thought. Maybe a different time or culture, but myself and many of my friends went out with girls a good bit younger than us, the main concern was probably can we get them into the pub.

Just imaged the word sophomore (strange American word) on Google, and no problems there.

[BorisTheFerret]

Quote by: Simonius I'd rate it at 1. Two teenagers, together... hardly sick.

But she's thirteen years old! That essentially makes her a child, and the boy should have known better. I was sixteen (in ferret years) once, and at that age I was chasing sheferrets my own age, not pre-pubescents.

I stand by my original scoring of 6 out of 10. Two points for getting a vulnerable minor drunk, plus one additional point for every year that she was under the age of sixteen, plus a final point for shagging another bloke's girl.

[Walrus]

It would be unusual for a thirteen year old girl to be prepubescent, as the definition of prepubescent is someone who is below the age of sexual reproduction.

[Simonius]

Quote by: BorisTheFerret But she's thirteen years old! That essentially makes her a child, and the boy should have known better. I was sixteen (in ferret years) once, and at that age I was chasing sheferrets my own age, not pre-pubescents. I stand by my original scoring of 6 out of 10. Two points for getting a vulnerable minor drunk, plus one additional point for every year that she was under the age of sixteen, plus a final point for shagging another bloke's girl.

It only makes her legally a child, biologically she is a young adult, sixteen is not far off.

[BorisTheFerret]

Quote by: Simonius It only makes her legally a child, biologically she is a young adult, sixteen is not far off.

And you'd still be saying that if the guy was 36? Rubbish. He'd be rightly regarded as a paedophile and, while sex between a sixteen year old and a thirteen year old isn't as sick as between a 36 year old and a thirteen year old (that would be at least 7 out of 10), it's still very bad. And at sixteen, the boy (who certainly is a young adult), should know better.

Thirteen years old is well below the age of consent, and it's well below the age of consent for a reason. Thirteen year olds shouldn't be having sex, end of.

[Walrus]

The reason the age of consent was introduced in the UK was to prevent young girls being sold into prostitution, it was originally thirteen but was raised to sixteen in 1885. I think it should stand to protect young girls from older predatory males but there should be a proviso regarding young people of a similar age.

What I consider to be far more important, is that prevention of unwanted pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases is taught.

[BorisTheFerret]

Quote by: Walrus The reason the age of consent was introduced in the UK was to prevent young girls being sold into prostitution, it was originally thirteen but was raised to sixteen in 1885. I think it should stand to protect young girls from older predatory males but there should be a proviso regarding young people of a similar age. What I consider to be far more important, is that prevention of unwanted pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases is taught.

I agree that unwanted pregnancy and the spread of STDs are important issues which need to be confronted in a more concerted and pragmatic way. But I have to disagree with you on the subject of the age of consent. There should NOT be a proviso allowing sixteen year old boys to have sex with thirteen year old girls.

If you allowed thirteen year old girls to have sex with sixteen year old boys, you'd no doubt end up with a lot of boys aged 13-15 having sex with girls of the same age. How can you then tell a thirteen year old boy that he's too young, but that a girl the same age is old enough. You'd have to legalise sex for thirteen year old boys as well.

Then, soon enough, you'd end up with a thirteen year old boy and a ten year old girl having sex. Then what do you do? Where do you draw the line?

At the end of the day, you're always going to have to draw an arbitrary line, be it thirteen, sixteen, eighteen, etc. Are all sixteen year olds emotionally mature and ready to begin having sexual relationships? No. But they're a lot more ready than thirteen year olds.

Society has deemed sixteen year olds to be more-or-less ready to begin having sex, just as it's deemed them old enough to smoke cigarettes, leave school and start working, and almost (in the UK) old enough to start driving and voting. As such, society has deemed adulthood to begin essentially between the ages of 16 and 18. And I'd say that's just about right. Nobody regards a thirteen year old as a young adult, just as most people would not really regard a sixteen year old as a child. And sex is surely something which should only be available to adults, in any civilised society. That's what the Victorians recognised when they introduced the age of consent laws, and liberal though I am I think they were entirely correct.

[Walrus]

If unwanted pregnancy and the spread of STDs need to be confronted in a more concerted and pragmatic way, isn’t the use of punitive measures against young people going the discourage them from seeking help and advice on these issues if doing so is going to place them at risk of prosecution and of those giving help and advice could it not be seen as an act of incitement and place them at risk of prosecution.