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Somalia04 · Dec 5, 2007, 09:22 am

I am doing a project on communication issues in online dating. For anyone who has done it or has an opinion on it, do you think this is yet another issue to add to the long list of communication problems or is it actually a good thing? Also, any experiences with specific sites for used for online dating would be helpful!

Nemiroff · Dec 5, 2007, 10:39 am

There is nothing wrong with online dating, if your not stupid and meet them in a public place first its the same risk as regular dating, the only difference is that it helps you look at more people and narrow it down to more of your type, as well as giving shy and not so social people a better chance at dating and even working on their Mac without much personal humiliation.

Milton Bradley · Dec 5, 2007, 06:16 pm

I avoid these things like the plague.

Osborn F Enready · Dec 5, 2007, 06:24 pm

I have used online sites to meet people, some for dating, some as friends, some as political activists.

I have not used any of the polled sites.

I appreciate the choice of online dating, meeting and organizing, and value them.

Dieval · Dec 5, 2007, 07:40 pm

I haven't used an online dating service before. My wife might get mad at me.

brien · Dec 7, 2007, 02:50 pm

Been married for 29 years now and it wasn't around in 1978. Obviously, I don't use those sites.

Cephus · Dec 7, 2007, 05:40 pm

While my wife would be very unhappy if I was out looking for a date, frankly I would never use any of those sites, simply because the people who use them are the ones who are so pathetic they can't find a date any other way.

That's not to say you can't make friends online and I've made a lot of them, but if I was looking for someone special to spend my life with, it wouldn't be getting set up by a computer.

Suburbanite · Dec 10, 2007, 07:59 pm

I was going to put none, but then I realized I've used facebook to get some. However, I have to say, they were always people I knew in real life, but happened to be browsing their facebook picture, remember how much i liked them, and then pursued something.

currently though i found my first crush form elementary school, and have been talking with her, and i keep asking her out, and she keeps replying without an answer! Its really interesting how online conversations work.

Milton Bradley · Dec 10, 2007, 08:18 pm

I have to admit, I am just a little curious about the E-Harmony method. It seems a bit intriguing.

Muser · Dec 10, 2007, 10:09 pm

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I have to admit, I am just a little curious about the E-Harmony method. It seems a bit intriguing.

FWIW, eHarmony worked for my sister and her fiancé (wedding date set for 12/31/07).

bishop · Dec 10, 2007, 11:01 pm

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I am doing a project on communication issues in online dating. For anyone who has done it or has an opinion on it, do you think this is yet another issue to add to the long list of communication problems or is it actually a good thing? Also, any experiences with specific sites for used for online dating would be helpful!

nope. but, i did "meet" my wife on a forum, then chatted on AIM for about 2 years before ever seeing her in person. and, i saw her in person for about 1-2 years before we started dating.

Chaossaber314 · Dec 11, 2007, 04:41 pm

I've communicated with girls I was already dating through Facebook, if that counts...

Also it seems to be becoming more and more trendy in college for a relationship either two people together or breaking up, to not be official until it says it on your respective profile.

Zeebadee · Dec 11, 2007, 10:36 pm

Actually, I was wondering about some of the girls/women we have right here in Volconvo. Should I start a new thread? Be gentle, I'm not good at handling rejection...

thatoneguy00 · Dec 11, 2007, 11:53 pm

My theory on online dating is this, I am 25 and live by myself and with the bills coming in every month I have to work two jobs just to get by, so that leaves little time for me to actually go out and meet someone. So I tried the online dating thing, and it has worked out very well. There are many people who just dont have the time anymore to go out and meet someone. But on the flipside, people can make themselves out to be absolute diamonds in the rough, hiding their true identity, as chris hanson would put it. Every profile says the same thing, outgoing, fun, loves to laugh and have a good time. I am not a moron, if they alll say the same thing then someones got to be telling a fib somewhere.

Somalia04 · Dec 14, 2007, 09:53 am

Interesting. I'm 21 and I tried it a year ago on Second Life, to near disasterous results. I wasn't crazy enough to give a lot of personal info or anything, but it was pretty wild. Internet dating provides an arena for people to misrepresent themselves in ways they never would've dreamed with face to face relationships.

Bailey Faye · Dec 14, 2007, 03:43 pm

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Interesting. I'm 21 and I tried it a year ago on Second Life, to near disasterous results. I wasn't crazy enough to give a lot of personal info or anything, but it was pretty wild. Internet dating provides an arena for people to misrepresent themselves in ways they never would've dreamed with face to face relationships.

Misrepresent is right! One of my co-workers met a man online and they eventually got married. He was suppose to be out of the country after they got married because he was in the military. He was on the front lines in Iraq. (BOLOGNA) Turns out he had 2 other wives, and one with a child. There is too much left out with online dating for me. Dateline NBC did me in on any personal relationships online. People are Psycho and scarry!

Milton Bradley · Dec 14, 2007, 05:12 pm

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People are Psycho and scarry!

Heh, I would have said desperate, and stupid, but I think I'm in agreement with you as well.

Bailey Faye · Dec 14, 2007, 05:19 pm

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Heh, I would have said desperate, and stupid, but I think I'm in agreement with you as well.

I think you could put a large majority in all 4 categories! There was a guy around here that was meeting women on the internet, convincing them to meet and then killing them and puttnig them in barrels. People are too creapy for words.

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Dec 5, 2007, 09:22 am	#1 (permalink) (top)
Somalia04 Sedimentary Rock Location: "Moral" Heartbeat of America Posts: 13	Online dating I am doing a project on communication issues in online dating. For anyone who has done it or has an opinion on it, do you think this is yet another issue to add to the long list of communication problems or is it actually a good thing? Also, any experiences with specific sites for used for online dating would be helpful! ...She lives in the illusion that the future will be sound If her eyes were Pecola Blue- The bluest ones around.

Dec 5, 2007, 06:24 pm	#4 (permalink) (top)
Osborn F Enready Principled Observer Location: Toledo, Ohio Posts: 13,877	I have used online sites to meet people, some for dating, some as friends, some as political activists. I have not used any of the polled sites. I appreciate the choice of online dating, meeting and organizing, and value them. Petition of Redress of Grievances: http://www.givemeliberty.org/default.htm Canadian Lawsuit Against Their National Banks: http://www.freewebs.com/classaction/ Osborn F. Enready

Dec 5, 2007, 07:40 pm	#5 (permalink) (top)
Dieval Right of Center Location: San Diego, CA Posts: 3,004	I haven't used an online dating service before. My wife might get mad at me. "You have enemies? Good. That means you've stood up for something, sometime in your life." -- Winston Churchill

Dec 7, 2007, 02:50 pm	#6 (permalink) (top)
brien Iceberg Location: Connecticut Posts: 5,703	Been married for 29 years now and it wasn't around in 1978. Obviously, I don't use those sites. Brien the Iceberg If you tell the truth you don't have to remember anything. M.T.

Dec 5, 2007, 10:39 am	#2 (permalink) (top)
Nemiroff Igneous Magma Posts: 354	There is nothing wrong with online dating, if your not stupid and meet them in a public place first its the same risk as regular dating, the only difference is that it helps you look at more people and narrow it down to more of your type, as well as giving shy and not so social people a better chance at dating and even working on their Mac without much personal humiliation.

Dec 5, 2007, 06:16 pm	#3 (permalink) (top)
Milton Bradley BANNED Location: Ohio Province, Rep. of Comerica Posts: 7,320	I avoid these things like the plague.

Dec 7, 2007, 05:40 pm	#7 (permalink) (top)
Cephus Hot Lava Location: Redlands, CA Posts: 2,347	While my wife would be very unhappy if I was out looking for a date, frankly I would never use any of those sites, simply because the people who use them are the ones who are so pathetic they can't find a date any other way. That's not to say you can't make friends online and I've made a lot of them, but if I was looking for someone special to spend my life with, it wouldn't be getting set up by a computer. Jesus loves me? No thanks, I don't swing that way. Blog Me! http://BitchSpot.JadeDragonOnline.com

Dec 10, 2007, 07:59 pm	#8 (permalink) (top)
Suburbanite BANNED Location: Los Angeles Posts: 3,203	I was going to put none, but then I realized I've used facebook to get some. However, I have to say, they were always people I knew in real life, but happened to be browsing their facebook picture, remember how much i liked them, and then pursued something. currently though i found my first crush form elementary school, and have been talking with her, and i keep asking her out, and she keeps replying without an answer! Its really interesting how online conversations work.

Dec 10, 2007, 08:18 pm	#9 (permalink) (top)
Milton Bradley BANNED Location: Ohio Province, Rep. of Comerica Posts: 7,320	I have to admit, I am just a little curious about the E-Harmony method. It seems a bit intriguing.

Dec 11, 2007, 04:41 pm	#12 (permalink) (top)
Chaossaber314 The Cake is a lie... Location: St. Louis Posts: 2,388	I've communicated with girls I was already dating through Facebook, if that counts... Also it seems to be becoming more and more trendy in college for a relationship either two people together or breaking up, to not be official until it says it on your respective profile. What makes a man turn neutral? Lust for gold? Power? Or were you just born with a heart full of neutrality?

Dec 11, 2007, 10:36 pm	#13 (permalink) (top)
Zeebadee Volcanic Erupter Posts: 3,833	Actually, I was wondering about some of the girls/women we have right here in Volconvo. Should I start a new thread? Be gentle, I'm not good at handling rejection... "Everybody knows that the boat is leaking Everybody knows that the captain lied." - Leonard Cohen

Dec 11, 2007, 11:53 pm	#14 (permalink) (top)
thatoneguy00 The DON Posts: 256	My theory on online dating is this, I am 25 and live by myself and with the bills coming in every month I have to work two jobs just to get by, so that leaves little time for me to actually go out and meet someone. So I tried the online dating thing, and it has worked out very well. There are many people who just dont have the time anymore to go out and meet someone. But on the flipside, people can make themselves out to be absolute diamonds in the rough, hiding their true identity, as chris hanson would put it. Every profile says the same thing, outgoing, fun, loves to laugh and have a good time. I am not a moron, if they alll say the same thing then someones got to be telling a fib somewhere.

Dec 14, 2007, 09:53 am	#15 (permalink) (top)
Somalia04 Sedimentary Rock Location: "Moral" Heartbeat of America Posts: 13	Interesting. I'm 21 and I tried it a year ago on Second Life, to near disasterous results. I wasn't crazy enough to give a lot of personal info or anything, but it was pretty wild. Internet dating provides an arena for people to misrepresent themselves in ways they never would've dreamed with face to face relationships. ...She lives in the illusion that the future will be sound If her eyes were Pecola Blue- The bluest ones around.