Can a man get all his emotional needs met by another man

[pam699]

Can a man get all his emotional needs from another man
or
are there some emotional needs only a female can give a man-if so what are they

[Praxius]

Ask a gay person, most will say yes they can. Technically the only thing women can provide that men can't is a vagina.

[Slevin57]

I'd say yes. Psychologically speaking each person tends to assume a "gender" role. One male will be relatively submissive and very caring, the other may take on a more masculine role and be protective and dominant.

[Keith Hamburger]

Well, I have to disagree. I recently had a very close friend who was a woman. The friendship had to be broken off because my wife thought we were "too close". My wife wondered what there was in that friendship that I couldn't get from a male friend.

Well, I'm still not completely sure how to answer that question. Yes, there was some sexual attraction between us, but I think we had that well under control. Beyond that, there was just a closeness that I don't think would be possible with a male friend. I think those things are related.

I think I would be very uncomfortable with any type of man who might be sexually attracted to me, nothing wrong with such a person, I just don't go that way and don't have such feelings. (or, maybe, I am afraid I might have such feelings. Who really knows.) But, I am comfortable with such with a woman. And, I think in any really close relationship there is some of that. I'm not sure I've not ever had what I would consider a really close friendship in which there wasn't some underlying sexual tension. Not even that this is a major part of the relationship, just that it seems to always be there whenever I manage to get close to someone.

So, I don't know how to really answer that question, but, for most men, I don't think it's really possible.

Keith

[Jack]

It's really hard to tell most of the time, but I don't think the OP was asking about "most men". At least it would be a very strange question to ask most men.

[Zinkovich]

Quote by: Keith Hamburger Well, I have to disagree. I recently had a very close friend who was a woman. The friendship had to be broken off because my wife thought we were "too close".

Wait just one minute, stop right there! You've given a segue into my point for this thread! :)

That aspect of your situation, as well as similar ones, has everything to do with gender roles. For a female, the male is in all intense purposes her source of comfort and security(possibly as well as yours- I don't know the full context of your marraige). Considering this, the situation of "breaking off" had everything to do with gender roles- the underlying sexual tension and possessiveness that exists in a male-female relationship can exist in a male-male relationship when the two are living together, considering this.

In fact, I would not be surprised if some of my homosexual brethren were more comfortable with having thier partner hang out with females than with males. Hell, I've even seen a couple of examples of such a thing amongst my friends. I also would not be surprised if some homosexuals could not form the same casual relationship with a male as you did with that one other female in your situation.

Really, this all depends on individual context. I guess for "most" you would find some barrier in getting emotional security due to the stoic nature of the average male-male relationship, but in homosexual situations you have to keep in mind many of those roles are twisted, reinterpreted, or thrown right out the metaphorical window.

[Jack]

I also would not be surprised if some homosexuals could not form the same casual relationship with a male as you did with that one other female in your situation.

Since at least 90% of the males I interact with on a typical day are straight, I'd have to agree. Most of my male friends are not gay. Neither are most of my female friends.

[Keith Hamburger]

Quote by: Zinkovich Really, this all depends on individual context. I guess for "most" you would find some barrier in getting emotional security due to the stoic nature of the average male-male relationship, but in homosexual situations you have to keep in mind many of those roles are twisted, reinterpreted, or thrown right out the metaphorical window.

Which really makes this thread somewhat "irrelevant"???

Can "a man get all his emotional needs met by another man"??

I think that answer would clearly be "Yes!".

There is certainly "a man" in existence who could do so.

Can most men do so?

I guess that's a completely different discussion. If "a man" is truly homosexual, he most obviously can.

But, "most men" are not homosexual.

I would contend that "most men" cannot. But, "a man" certainly can.

Keith

[pam699]

What emotional needs can a women give a man that a man cant

ae there any emotions a women can supply a man that anthoer man cant
if so what are some of the emotions a man cant give another man that ONLY a women can

[Kamehameha34]

Women aren't like machines - you don't push a couple buttons, and turn a lever to feel "jealousy".

Your question is subjective. Everyone reacts differently to things.

[Zinkovich]

Quote by: Isherwood Since at least 90% of the males I interact with on a typical day are straight, I'd have to agree. Most of my male friends are not gay. Neither are most of my female friends.

Same here, but you're misinterpreting my context. From what I had read, an aspect of the relationship he formed with that female was the sort of sympathy to be had at just the border of romantic interest in one another, to the point of casual emotional intimacy. I'm not sure such a thing can be comfortably/easily had between your average straight person and gay person, as I've never made any attempts at "sharing" with anyone in such a matter, but I could see how some barriers could result.

As he said himself- "I think I would be very uncomfortable with any type of man who might be sexually attracted to me". Even in a close friendship that spans over many years between a gay and straight individual, a barrier in the way of the sort of emotional intimacy mentioned above would likely exist and be brought up to the surface when such a dynamic might try to naturally come into play in the relationship between a straight and a gay individual.

[Zinkovich]

Quote by: Keith Hamburger Which really makes this thread somewhat "irrelevant"??? Can "a man get all his emotional needs met by another man"?? I think that answer would clearly be "Yes!". There is certainly "a man" in existence who could do so. Can most men do so? I guess that's a completely different discussion. If "a man" is truly homosexual, he most obviously can. But, "most men" are not homosexual. I would contend that "most men" cannot. But, "a man" certainly can.

I don't know- I'm sure some people can gain a substitute for the emotional security found in a relationship by having many male friends in the traditional sense. If you drown out your despair with enough fun and laughter, I'm pretty sure you can keep it away in some way or another.

All I know is there are a lot of old single men out there- how do they do it? Drinks? Drugs? Whores? There has to be some method to thier madness- any guesses?

[Chris]

I am merging these two threads.

[G. Adams]

It depends on how you seperate needs from wants. We all need enough contact and intimacy with other people so that we don't become disconnected and depressed. To this extent, yeah I'm pretty sure any guy can have a platonic relationship with another guy that fulfills these needs. Also to a deeper level, that desire to feel important to someone, to be needed by them, that too you can also get between two men. Look at soldiers for a start.

But when it comes to your wants, your not gonna have that feeling you get after sex when your legs are wrapped around each other and you can feel their breath on your chest, between two straight guys. I don't consider that connection an emotional need, but damn you miss it when your not in a relationship.

[Keith Hamburger]

Quote by: Zinkovich I don't know- I'm sure some people can gain a substitute for the emotional security found in a relationship by having many male friends in the traditional sense. If you drown out your despair with enough fun and laughter, I'm pretty sure you can keep it away in some way or another. All I know is there are a lot of old single men out there- how do they do it? Drinks? Drugs? Whores? There has to be some method to thier madness- any guesses?

I think, though, that my point was that it just can't be the same. Sure, I have male friends that I care about and spend time with. But, it's just not the same as it can be with a female friend. I'm not sure why and I'm not certain that I can explain it.

I just can't see myself getting as close to another man as is possible with a woman.

Will I survive without either, of course. Would my life be better without both, probably not.

Keith

[baby j]

First of all, I believe everybody is intitle to their own choice to choose whom ever they want to be with. I am not here to judge nobody. I will leave the judging up to the God you sever and worship. However, i personally believe that a man can't and will not receive all his emotional needs met by another man.Anybody who feel that a man can get all his emotional needs met by another man is clear evidence that the devil is alive and the devil is a liar.There certain emotion that only a women can touch on a man that another man can't do. God made adam and eve for a reason.

[G. Adams]

Quote by: baby j First of all, I believe everybody is intitle to their own choice to choose whom ever they want to be with. I am not here to judge nobody. I will leave the judging up to the God you sever and worship. However, i personally believe that a man can't and will not receive all his emotional needs met by another man.Anybody who feel that a man can get all his emotional needs met by another man is clear evidence that the devil is alive and the devil is a liar.There certain emotion that only a women can touch on a man that another man can't do. God made adam and eve for a reason.

Which emotional needs are these? Are they actually needs?

[ZNFYRH]

I would think that while different genders are predisposed to certain types of emotional behavior, no type of emotional behavior is exclusive to any one gender.

[Keith Hamburger]

Quote by: ZNFYRH I would think that while different genders are predisposed to certain types of emotional behavior, no type of emotional behavior is exclusive to any one gender.

Which leads back to my point of "a man" vs. "most men".

Keith

[ZNFYRH]

Keith,

I would absolutely say that it's possible for "a man" to have his emotional needs met by "another man".

A single successful homosexual relationship proves it valid, and there are plenty of those all over the world.