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Athena · Feb 15, 2007, 01:12 pm

Oh for goodness sake, what is the point of going off to college if one isn't free? He might as well stay home with his parents, if he isn't free to experience life and grow and change.

Look your horomes are making you want to believe you are ready for a long term relationship, but as the young gentleman in your life needs his freedom to experience life, grow and change, so do you.

The early urge for mating was great when we lived off the land and our lives were short. If we didn't reproduce by 16 years of age, the human species probably wouldn't have survived, but this horomal programming is not well suited for modern man. Develop your own independence and personal interest, and don't take dating seriously until you know yourself better and have confidence in providing for yourself. Going into a relationship too early is a set up for various kinds of abuse down the road. Being confident in providing for yourself in every way, is vitally important to not ending up dependent, loosing your self esteem, and other bad things happening.

pandaz xx · Feb 16, 2007, 03:13 pm

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Quote by: Athena

Oh for goodness sake, what is the point of going off to college if one isn't free? He might as well stay home with his parents, if he isn't free to experience life and grow and change.

Look your horomes are making you want to believe you are ready for a long term relationship, but as the young gentleman in your life needs his freedom to experience life, grow and change, so do you.

The early urge for mating was great when we lived off the land and our lives were short. If we didn't reproduce by 16 years of age, the human species probably wouldn't have survived, but this horomal programming is not well suited for modern man. Develop your own independence and personal interest, and don't take dating seriously until you know yourself better and have confidence in providing for yourself. Going into a relationship too early is a set up for various kinds of abuse down the road. Being confident in providing for yourself in every way, is vitally important to not ending up dependent, loosing your self esteem, and other bad things happening.

completely true.
now that I sit down & think of how I was so tied up in how my feelings were,
I realized I'd do the exact same.
^_^

I'm maturing with every second.
& my hormones are going crazy.
I just need to let it be.
& I need to just let it go.
=]

Praxius · Feb 16, 2007, 04:06 pm

Mmmmmm.... Hormones...... glaglaglallalalal......

pandaz xx · Feb 20, 2007, 11:34 am

yeah.
hormones can go die for all i care.
:]

Zhavric · Feb 20, 2007, 02:56 pm

Haven't read the whole thread, but here are my $0.02.

High school was a decade ago for me so I don't know what it's like now. It was the "let's talk about sex" era of the early 90's where AIDS was starting to really be understood. And now I'm going to feel REALLY old...

No cell phones. No one knew what the internet was.

With all that in mind... the thing I despised about high school was if you dated someone it was like you were married to that person. Breaking up with them was tantamount to divorce with all the associated drama. Even kids aware of this fact still fell into it as they'd date someone who wanted to be in a steady relationship.

I know the internet has changed the social dynamic of high schools quite a bit, but a lot (not all, but a lot) of kids look to their (married) parents as models of how to go about dating other people. For kids who have their whole lives ahead of them, I find this silly.

Be safe, but have fun. Don't tie yourself down in a relationship unless it's what you BOTH want.

With that in mind, your boyfriend did the right thing. If you're not going to the same college he is, then you really have no business dating him. Consider that his break up with you was the right thing to do... It sounds like he has a lot of respect for you, cares for you and knows himself well enough that it's better to end things than to cheat on you and have to lie about it.

Move on. Date other guys. Use your head. Have fun. Hop on the internet and meet some people.

More fun today.

Duke1985 · Feb 20, 2007, 02:59 pm

I was in a long distance relationship once.... once.

Feb 15, 2007, 01:12 pm	#21 (permalink) (top)
Athena Volcanic Erupter Location: Oregon Posts: 5,297	Oh for goodness sake, what is the point of going off to college if one isn't free? He might as well stay home with his parents, if he isn't free to experience life and grow and change. Look your horomes are making you want to believe you are ready for a long term relationship, but as the young gentleman in your life needs his freedom to experience life, grow and change, so do you. The early urge for mating was great when we lived off the land and our lives were short. If we didn't reproduce by 16 years of age, the human species probably wouldn't have survived, but this horomal programming is not well suited for modern man. Develop your own independence and personal interest, and don't take dating seriously until you know yourself better and have confidence in providing for yourself. Going into a relationship too early is a set up for various kinds of abuse down the road. Being confident in providing for yourself in every way, is vitally important to not ending up dependent, loosing your self esteem, and other bad things happening. Dawn falls Eve. Enlightenment falls the darkness.

Feb 20, 2007, 02:56 pm	#25 (permalink) (top)
Zhavric Made of pure win. Posts: 3,795	Haven't read the whole thread, but here are my $0.02. High school was a decade ago for me so I don't know what it's like now. It was the "let's talk about sex" era of the early 90's where AIDS was starting to really be understood. And now I'm going to feel REALLY old... No cell phones. No one knew what the internet was. With all that in mind... the thing I despised about high school was if you dated someone it was like you were married to that person. Breaking up with them was tantamount to divorce with all the associated drama. Even kids aware of this fact still fell into it as they'd date someone who wanted to be in a steady relationship. I know the internet has changed the social dynamic of high schools quite a bit, but a lot (not all, but a lot) of kids look to their (married) parents as models of how to go about dating other people. For kids who have their whole lives ahead of them, I find this silly. Be safe, but have fun. Don't tie yourself down in a relationship unless it's what you BOTH want. With that in mind, your boyfriend did the right thing. If you're not going to the same college he is, then you really have no business dating him. Consider that his break up with you was the right thing to do... It sounds like he has a lot of respect for you, cares for you and knows himself well enough that it's better to end things than to cheat on you and have to lie about it. Move on. Date other guys. Use your head. Have fun. Hop on the internet and meet some people. More fun today. Theists: supplying volconvo with lose since 2004.

Feb 16, 2007, 04:06 pm	#23 (permalink) (top)
Praxius Mass'Debator Posts: 4,730	Mmmmmm.... Hormones...... glaglaglallalalal......

Feb 20, 2007, 11:34 am	#24 (permalink) (top)
pandaz xx overweight ^_^ Location: 812-INDIANA Posts: 89	yeah. hormones can go die for all i care. :]

Feb 20, 2007, 02:59 pm	#26 (permalink) (top)
Duke1985 The Duke Location: Michigan Posts: 308	I was in a long distance relationship once.... once.