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iahag · Jan 31, 2007, 06:17 pm

Need help, fast, dont know what she feels. I'd really like to know, just dont want to open the basket yet ... if you know what I mean.

PS, Im completely socially inept

. I couldnt tell what a women was thinking if you put a gun to my head.

notworthabean · Jan 31, 2007, 06:27 pm

so you like her, but want to probe to see if she likes you without asking her out correct? how old are you/her? whats your past with her?

Scribbler1 · Jan 31, 2007, 06:31 pm

Just let her know you like HER. If she is in any way perceptive she will pick up on that and let you know how she feels. You shouldn't even have to ask.

iahag · Jan 31, 2007, 06:31 pm

18. She lives in a flat in the same establishment as I. I known her for 6 months since I got here. We go out as friends with friends quite often and we have agreed to live in the same house next year along with some friends.

notworthabean · Jan 31, 2007, 06:32 pm

does she have a boyfriend? has she had one recently?does she date at all? (i assume you don't)

notworthabean · Jan 31, 2007, 06:33 pm

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Just let her know you like HER. If she is in any way perceptive she will pick up on that and let you know how she feels. You shouldn't even have to ask.

I feel like there would be major misscomunication there, the OP seems to be rather in experince din that regard and stuff would get lost in translation

iahag · Jan 31, 2007, 06:45 pm

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does she have a boyfriend? has she had one recently?does she date at all? (i assume you don't)

Hasnt had one in 6 months as far I know.

PatrickHenry · Jan 31, 2007, 06:48 pm

Ask her to go for a walk, just the two of you...

notworthabean · Jan 31, 2007, 06:53 pm

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Hasnt had one in 6 months as far I know.

hmm-normally I'd agree with patrick henrys suggestion, however since you live with her now/are doing so again next year, I'd advise not going for this girl all tgether. its generally good policy to not date girls who live near you bcause well when things go bad it gets akward

pahl · Jan 31, 2007, 07:53 pm

Causally ask her what kind of guys she goes for, if she discribes you then thats a good sign. Although i dont think there is any sure way to know without "going full out". Some girls are just flirty by nature.

Autolykos · Jan 31, 2007, 08:11 pm

If the two of you haven't been out alone together, then ask her out on a "date". Just the two of you. She should get the hint.

- Rob

phoenix_fire · Jan 31, 2007, 08:12 pm

As a girl, I would say to simply say something. Tell her. One of the worst things that can happen if you don't is for her to find out on her own. The longer she knows, the less she will respect you.

The Bacon Guy · Jan 31, 2007, 08:22 pm

As the late Dudley Moore once said, the only sure way to tell if a woman likes you is to get your knob out, put it in her hand and cry.

Gods_Mercenary · Jan 31, 2007, 08:22 pm

Come on real hard, if she likes you, she'll be happy, if she doesn't, then I'm willing to take you in here in the states when she calls the cops, just run away fast and buy the plane tickets ahead of time:)

PS. That wasn't really advice, don't take it. Or at least record it so I can get a good laugh.

Trent · Jan 31, 2007, 08:58 pm

I would say be patient (especially if you're going to be sharing a house next year).
If there's a buzz between you - let it develop naturally. Don't aim to get into her knickers - aim to be her friend. Close friendships are always a good beginning and there is a lot of pleasure to be had in the transition into lovers (if it comes to that).

And stay off computer games - women hate that shit

Milton Bradley · Jan 31, 2007, 09:12 pm

Don't ask her out. If she is truly interested, she will ask you out, and you will have all the "hand" in the relationship.

Never underestimate the power of the invisible "hand".

Scribbler1 · Jan 31, 2007, 09:26 pm

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I feel like there would be major misscomunication there, the OP seems to be rather in experince din that regard and stuff would get lost in translation

Speaking of miscommunication, I should have been a little clearer myself. I didn't mean to tell her like "YO, I like YOU" or anything too obvious.
It's probably a generational error on my part. I tell women I like them all the time and they don't assume it's a request for a date. So I guess I should have said SHOW her you like her, by taking an interest in whatever she likes (no matter how painful that may be) and saying, in a non-romantic way that you enjoy her company. Then play it by ear, as without being there we are ALL at a disadvantage to offer very specific relationship advice IMO.

Scribbler1 · Jan 31, 2007, 09:27 pm

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Quote by: Milton Bradley

Don't ask her out. If she is truly interested, she will ask you out, and you will have all the "hand" in the relationship.

Never underestimate the power of the invisible "hand".

As long as she doesn't tell you to keep your invisible hand to yourself.

notworthabean · Jan 31, 2007, 09:43 pm

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Speaking of miscommunication, I should have been a little clearer myself. I didn't mean to tell her like "YO, I like YOU" or anything too obvious.
It's probably a generational error on my part. I tell women I like them all the time and they don't assume it's a request for a date. So I guess I should have said SHOW her you like her, by taking an interest in whatever she likes (no matter how painful that may be) and saying, in a non-romantic way that you enjoy her company. Then play it by ear, as without being there we are ALL at a disadvantage to offer very specific relationship advice IMO.

who knew the generation gap between 18 year olds and 19 year olds is so great! lol.

if you want to find out if shes romanticly intereasted, ask her out, fairly subtely on a date. say for example go out like you and your freinds usually do, but have all you other freinds be "busy" she'll get the hint as to whats intentioned.

Scribbler1 · Jan 31, 2007, 10:49 pm

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who knew the generation gap between 18 year olds and 19 year olds is so great! lol.

I meant between ME and them.

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if you want to find out if shes romanticly intereasted, ask her out, fairly subtely on a date. say for example go out like you and your freinds usually do, but have all you other freinds be "busy" she'll get the hint as to whats intentioned.

Going out with a small crowd. That's not a bad way to go.

Jan 31, 2007, 06:17 pm	#1 (permalink) (top)
iahag Skeptic of Skeptics Location: Bristol/Plymouth Posts: 219	How can you tell if a girl likes you? Need help, fast, dont know what she feels. I'd really like to know, just dont want to open the basket yet ... if you know what I mean. PS, Im completely socially inept . I couldnt tell what a women was thinking if you put a gun to my head. The more painless an exercise, the more likely you are of doing it. The more painful an exercise, the more likely you are of learning from it.

Jan 31, 2007, 06:31 pm	#3 (permalink) (top)
Scribbler1 Skeptical Patriot Posts: 7,832	Just let her know you like HER. If she is in any way perceptive she will pick up on that and let you know how she feels. You shouldn't even have to ask. Not a day goes by that I don't see something that reinforces my belief that people are idiots.

Jan 31, 2007, 06:31 pm	#4 (permalink) (top)
iahag Skeptic of Skeptics Location: Bristol/Plymouth Posts: 219	18. She lives in a flat in the same establishment as I. I known her for 6 months since I got here. We go out as friends with friends quite often and we have agreed to live in the same house next year along with some friends. The more painless an exercise, the more likely you are of doing it. The more painful an exercise, the more likely you are of learning from it.

Jan 31, 2007, 06:48 pm	#8 (permalink) (top)
PatrickHenry 9/11: Inside Job Location: Hawai'i, Big Island Posts: 10,453	Ask her to go for a walk, just the two of you... "Arms in the hands of the citizens may be used at individual discretion for the defense of the country, the overthrow of tyranny or private self-defense." -- John Adams

Jan 31, 2007, 08:11 pm	#11 (permalink) (top)
Autolykos Logical Phallussy Location: In your internets. Posts: 2,991	If the two of you haven't been out alone together, then ask her out on a "date". Just the two of you. She should get the hint. - Rob "I'd rather be free and alive!" -- Ron Paul Religion isn't the greatest threat to mankind -- authoritarianism is. The Anarcheion Zeitgeist

Jan 31, 2007, 06:27 pm	#2 (permalink) (top)
notworthabean libertarian neocon Location: north east Posts: 630	so you like her, but want to probe to see if she likes you without asking her out correct? how old are you/her? whats your past with her?

Jan 31, 2007, 06:32 pm	#5 (permalink) (top)
notworthabean libertarian neocon Location: north east Posts: 630	does she have a boyfriend? has she had one recently?does she date at all? (i assume you don't)

Jan 31, 2007, 07:53 pm	#10 (permalink) (top)
pahl Igneous Magma Location: Sweden Posts: 261	Causally ask her what kind of guys she goes for, if she discribes you then thats a good sign. Although i dont think there is any sure way to know without "going full out". Some girls are just flirty by nature.

Jan 31, 2007, 08:12 pm	#12 (permalink) (top)
phoenix_fire Paladin Location: Narnia Posts: 4,277	As a girl, I would say to simply say something. Tell her. One of the worst things that can happen if you don't is for her to find out on her own. The longer she knows, the less she will respect you. Place me like a seal over your heart, like a seal on your arm; for love is as strong as death, its jealousy unyielding as the grave. It burns like blazing fire, like a mighty flame. -- Song 8:6

Jan 31, 2007, 08:22 pm	#13 (permalink) (top)
The Bacon Guy Away Location: Scotland, Central Lowlands Posts: 3,317	As the late Dudley Moore once said, the only sure way to tell if a woman likes you is to get your knob out, put it in her hand and cry.

Jan 31, 2007, 08:22 pm	#14 (permalink) (top)
Gods_Mercenary Altruism Assassin Location: Massachusetts Posts: 5,357	Come on real hard, if she likes you, she'll be happy, if she doesn't, then I'm willing to take you in here in the states when she calls the cops, just run away fast and buy the plane tickets ahead of time:) PS. That wasn't really advice, don't take it. Or at least record it so I can get a good laugh. “Only two things are infinite, the universe and human stupidity, and I'm not sure about the former.” -Albert Einstein

Jan 31, 2007, 08:58 pm	#15 (permalink) (top)
Trent Molten Ash Posts: 90	I would say be patient (especially if you're going to be sharing a house next year). If there's a buzz between you - let it develop naturally. Don't aim to get into her knickers - aim to be her friend. Close friendships are always a good beginning and there is a lot of pleasure to be had in the transition into lovers (if it comes to that). And stay off computer games - women hate that shit

Jan 31, 2007, 09:12 pm	#16 (permalink) (top)
Milton Bradley BANNED Location: Ohio Province, Rep. of Comerica Posts: 7,320	Don't ask her out. If she is truly interested, she will ask you out, and you will have all the "hand" in the relationship. Never underestimate the power of the invisible "hand".