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Jul 25, 2006, 09:16 am
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| Igneous Magma  Location: Minnesota Posts: 395 | Depends on the ex, you and why you broke up. My ex Kevin cheated on me. We tried to remain friends - you know; chat online, talk on the phone, etc. But eventually we had a big fight and we haven't talked since. Paul broke up with the because he felt too committed and it scared him. We did remain friends. In fact we got back together. I think the major difference was how we broke up - Paul and I had time to talk about it - Kevin didn't want to talk about it. Quote:
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Jul 25, 2006, 09:48 am
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| Retired  Posts: 7,312 | I am friends with several ex's. It depends onhow you break up and whether either person still harbors feelings. "...with like-minded people one cannot discuss. With like-minded people one can only participate in a church service, and you know how I feel about church services." Ayaan Hirsi Ali |
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Jul 25, 2006, 10:03 am
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| Moral Turnip  Location: Oregon, US Posts: 2,283 | I'm not friends with any of my ex's, though mine is an unusual case: first, I met my soul mate when I was only 20, so I didn't have a lot of prior relationships that got very serious. Second, I don't really have any friends at all; I'm a bit of a hermit. But I wouldn't discount the idea of friendship, once enough time has passed/ the situation has changed enough to allow you both to get over the romantic feelings. If you still have romantic feelings for each other, then no, I don't think the friendship will work; you'll probably get one of the two results Aeris had. "Would you like some pie, Dr. Stark?" "Science is my pie. Curiosity, my sweet tooth. Knowledge is my candy." |
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Jul 25, 2006, 10:12 am
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| moderat-e/o-r  Location: boston Posts: 11,184 | i don't think it's possible.. only if you had a really loose, flossy kind of relationship - then, it might be possible.. and, trying to be friends with someone whom you had a serious relationship definitely wouldn't work - but i've know plenty of girls who've tried, and failed. |
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Jul 25, 2006, 11:21 am
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 Throbbing Member  Location: Old Europe Posts: 7,134 | Am friends with two ex's. It's something special. There's perhaps sometimes a wee hint of ambiguity (due to 'intimate knowledge'), but what the hell -- there is ambiguity in all sorts of relationships anyway, so nothing special. It depends not so much on the manner of the break-up (which itself depends on many factors) but on the true nature of your relationship and how clearly you can see where you've been and where you'd like to go. "I wish I was as cocksure of anything as Tom Macaulay is of everything." -- Viscount Melbourne |
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Jul 26, 2006, 10:58 am
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| Molten Ash Location: Texas Posts: 98 | Absolutely. I'm friends with all of my exes (and dating one for the long haul). Serious relationships and bad breakups be damned, it's still very possible. Sometimes it would be wiser to not, but I'll usually suggest still being friends. Even if a girl is a terrible girlfriend, she could still be a good friend (like how I am with two of my exes). --Second |
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Jul 26, 2006, 06:16 pm
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 Stront vir breins  Location: Buckinghamshire, UK Posts: 542 | Quote:
" UKIP -- the United Kingdom Independence Party, the golf club version of the BNP, British National Party. " Middle East.. "The vile leading the stupid to kill the decent in the name of the holy." | |
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Jul 27, 2006, 12:09 am
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| Cause for Concern Location: Planet Earth Posts: 664 | Its too awkward. It's then you realize how alot of things are about sex and not some mystical attachment. These molecules got me depressed. Isa14:21Prepare slaughter for his children for the iniquity of their fathers. Deu24:16The fathers shall not be put to death for the children,neither shall the kids be put to death for the fathers. |
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Jul 27, 2006, 01:21 pm
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 The Cake is a lie... Location: St. Louis Posts: 2,360 | I tried being friends with an ex. Didn't work out so well. When I said I thought we should just be friends and did the whole coffee "It's not you, it's me" break up date, she didn't take that as breaking up. She heard the words, but read into them. A few weeks later she was really getting clingy and on my nerves, even more so than when we had actually been quote unquote "dating" so I just cut her off. This prompted a violent response at a party she followed me to that weekend, but meh. So is my life. |
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Aug 4, 2006, 02:28 pm
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| Sedimentary Rock  Location: Ohio~ The Beautiful Buckeye State Posts: 15 | I am happy to say that I'm friends with all of my ex's. Some are not friend friends due to not seeing them alot but when I do it is always a very nice experience. I'm not a mean person and never dated mean people. I think that makes a differance. We always broke it off and continued on. My ex-fiance (engaged 3 yrs) became very good friends with my husband and was a dear friend to both of us up until his death a couple of years ago. Some people said it was odd but it was just us being mature I think. |
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Aug 4, 2006, 03:23 pm
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| Made of pure win.  Posts: 3,683 | Quote:
 omg w/out stef my life is meaningless. i wish we could be friends. id cut off my own ear like that painter monnet did if she'd just look at me. ive written sent her like 5 emails a day and made her like a bazillion itunes mix tapes expressing how sorowful i am and how i cant live without her. for me, emo blogger kid, there is no hope w/out stef. there is no light. there is no show. there is nothing. just big emptiness. maybe other people can work out their emo-tions and learn to live together but it's hard... so hard... to do. I wish stef would talk to me... ... incoming message? From bethany? 1337!!1!1!!1!!1 (the moral of emo blogger kid: There are more fish in the sea and it's not the end of the world if you can't be friends) | |
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Aug 5, 2006, 09:53 pm
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| Hot Lava Location: Redlands, CA Posts: 2,264 | Sure, so long as it wasn't a nasty breakup. I'm still friends with the first girlfriend I ever had, even though we broke up more than 20 years ago and we're both happily married to other people now. We're not as close as we once were, of course, especially since we live in different states and I don't think I've seen her in close to 10 years, but there hasn't been a year that I haven't gotten a phone call from her on my birthday or a Christmas card in the mail. Her husband and my wife get along fine too and I'm sure her kids would like playing with mine, if they ever got together. |
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