So my girlfriend and I have been dating for a few months now and were very much in love with each other. The problem is I'm 21 and she's 17. So is this wrong? And if it is why? Also when do you feel its appropriate to feel love for each other? And when is it appropriate to have sex?
Not necessarily, no. I have known plenty of couples with an age disparity like yours.
Depending on the state you live in, you are eligible for incarceration if you and your girlfriend have sex before she turns 18. Every state I can think of, however, has an exemptionary age-range that would cover you [this is why Jamie Spears' 19 year old boyfriend didn't go to jail when she birthed a baby at 16].
That being said, you should avoid intimacy with her, taking only chaperoned strolls occasionally. You may then ask her father for her hand in marriage and provided he agrees, it is then acceptable to propose to her. After she says yes, you may then get married and proceed in monogamous sexual intercourse for the purposes of procreation only.
Well, for more background info, neither of us believe in monogamous relationships, marriage, or sex for procreation. I already spend nearly every free moment I have with her at her house, and her parents pretty much love me and trust me completely to be alone with her or take her with me wherever. Supervised strolls seem absurd.
I'm curious why you'd ask strangers (who know only what you tell them about your situation) if it's wrong or not.
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I'm not asking for personal advice at all, I'm simply curious as to what other people would do or what they would think of my situation.
I think it's odd that you think you need the approval of strangers on the Internet, to be honest.
Trust me, this is not at all about approval. It's about other people's opinions, as this seemed to me to be an interesting topic for debate. I personally feel there is nothing at all wrong with what I'm doing or what I have done, but some people around me have expressed that they think it is. That, in conjunction with the statutory rape laws, is why I sought people's opinions regarding the morality and reasons behind the morality in my circumstance due to our ages and general situation.
The first two sentences contradict each other (emphasis added). Also, inviting speculation on your private life isn't really offering a debate, as no one here can possibly know enough of the details to warrant more than passing remarks on it.Trust me, this is not at all about approval. It's about other people's opinions, as this seemed to me to be an interesting topic for debate
If you wanted to start a debate about say, the age of consent laws, or statutory rape, maybe, then inviting people to talk about your relationship possibly wasn't the best way to state your argument. As it stands, this isn't a debate by even the kindest stretch of the imagination, I'm afraid.
Incidentally, the age of consent where I am from is sixteen, therefore there is nothing unusual, indeed even nothing that interesting, about your situation that I can see, aside from the fact that you are 21 and asking strangers on the Internet about when you should have sex.
It's wrong inasmuchas it's probably a horrible idea to fall in love with a 17 year old.
Depending on where you are, it might be illegal, but I don't find that age disparity to be immoral.
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