Crass behaviour in modern society

[bugsbunny04]

So, how do YOU define crass behavior?

Is it crass to check a woman out? How about telling her she is hot? How about saying "nice tits"?

Where is the line between being open about sexual interest and just being rude?

It really depens on who you're dealing with, and what the situation is. If you're tippin on four fours (sorry, I just had to... means getting drunk on fourties), thats a completely different situation from going to one of those formal parties. But I don't ever say "nice tits" to anyone... that just sounds stupid. Also, I can say to my girlfriend, "damn check yo dadunkadunkdunk", but I'd never say that to some stranger .

[Compugasm]

I prefer to say "Hey there sweet tits". It's more classier.

[Mia]

It does all depend on the who, where, etc. I've had coworkers and guy friends tell me in an FYI kind of way that I'm hot and I like that :-)

But if they make a coment about body parts I am very uncomfortable and feel it is very rude.

BUT, again, it's who it's coming from and my comfort level with them. If I wear something that shows off my figure, and a guy eyes me appreciatively and makes a (non-crude) comment, I take it as a compliment if he's someone I know.

My boss once called me into his office for no reason. I said "what did you need?" He said "to watch you walk out". :rolleyes: I was wearing his favorite suit that apparently was flattering to my backside.

I didn't fear real harrassment from him, so I thought it was funny!

But "nice tits"? That would get a guy a verbal beating!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Mr.Vicchio]

I think its more crass for people to get offended and sue then it is for the person that said soemthing "crass" you know what I mean?

[bugsbunny04]

Originally posted by Mia, But "nice tits"? That would get a guy a verbal beating!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Obviously, you arent from my neck of the woods.

[Pooeypants]

Definition: [adj] (of persons) so unrefined as to be lacking in discrimination and sensibility

Source

So it depends on how one defines sensibility as well.

[bugsbunny04]

Indeed Poo man.

[Mia]

Main Entry: crass

Etymology: Latin crassus thick, gross

1 a : GROSS 6a; especially : having or indicating such grossness of mind as precludes delicacy and discrimination b : being beneath one's dignity <crass concerns of daily life> c -- used as a pejorative intensifier <crass flattery> <crass propaganda>

2 : guided by or indicative of base or materialistic values <crass commercialism> <crass measures of success>

http://www.miriamwebster.com/cgi-bin/dicti...crass&x=18&y=10

The underlined portion is how I was using the word in a PM that caused Bugs to start this topic.

FYI, Bugs, the word is not archaic. It is commonly used. One of many sources: this month's Time magazine

[tusaki]

Subjective term. If I say 'nice movement in taht burqua' in Islamabad, I would probably have 5 brothers trying to kill me on my neck.

If I say 'nice ass' in a strip bar, I would get a smile and applause (not for me, but in agreement from the other spectators).

But in normal, western society, I don't think there is ever a good reason to use 'crass' remarks, unless you use it in an insulting way. (since it probably won't get you any closer to her).

General terms work best (you look good/hot), as mia said, since they also show your respect for the person (you dont have to HAVE respect for the person, but it makes them think you have -grin-).

[arclight]

Would it be considered crass for a son to defame his namesake at his funeral? I think it is. Ronald P. Reagan is a true jackass, or, crass is another way to say it.

[Mia]

I would definitely say that would be crass, but how did he do that? What did he say that you feel defamed his father?

[bugsbunny04]

Originally posted by Mia, ...having or indicating such grossness of mind as precludes delicacy and discrimination...FYI, Bugs, the word is not archaic...

I dont figure ( -pun) that wanting to know dimensions (yes, those dimensions yall), for purpose of getting an idea of what you would look like if I saw you in person, qualifies, unless someone is overly sensitive...It is the South, honey buns ( ), (jusk kidding about the honey buns, dont blow a head gasket)

[Mia]

Yes, and in the south, a lady does not give one her measurements over the internet. ;-). It most certainly is crass.

I gave you an excellent description of myself and "proportional figure" is quite enough for the "dimensions" category.

LIVE WITH IT! ;-)

[bugsbunny04]

Originally posted by Mia, Yes, and in the south, a lady does not give one her measurements over the internet. ;-). It most certainly is crass. I gave you an excellent description of myself and "proportional figure" is quite enough for the "dimensions" category. LIVE WITH IT! ;-)

You'd be surprised...Mabey...I just dont know your definition of proportional...and I am perfectly fine with not knowing the measurements, but I cant resist debating why you wont give them to me, you have to understand, I do this for recreational sport.

[Pooeypants]

Are we slipping into some kid of teenchat here? *cough*

[Mia]

That is what I'm wondering. I can't understand the insistance on knowing all this about me.

[Mia]

Originally posted by bugsbunny04,+--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (bugsbunny04,)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'><!--QuoteBegin-Mia, Yes, and in the south, a lady does not give one her measurements over the internet. ;-).  It most certainly is crass. I gave you an excellent description of myself and "proportional figure" is quite enough for the "dimensions" category. LIVE WITH IT! ;-)

You'd be surprised...Mabey...I just dont know your definition of proportional...and I am perfectly fine with not knowing the measurements, but I cant resist debating why you wont give them to me, you have to understand, I do this for recreational sport.[/b][/quote]

PLEASE WRITE 'MIA IS NOT CRASS' ON THE BLACKBOARD 100 TIMES. THEN WRITE "IT IS NONE OF MY BUSINESS" 100 TIMES TOO.

THIS IS NOT A DEBATEABLE ISSUE. IT IS MY PERSONAL INFORMATION. DROP IT, PLEASE.

:rolleyes:

[Pooeypants]

Originally posted by Mia, That is what I'm wondering. I can't understand the insistance on knowing all this about me.

Personally, if I were a lady I'd say I was in my fifties, saves all the hassle. (no offence meant to any ladies in the fifties)

[bugsbunny04]

Originally posted by Mia,+--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (Mia,)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'> Originally posted by bugsbunny04,@ <!--QuoteBegin-Mia, Yes, and in the south, a lady does not give one her measurements over the internet. ;-).  It most certainly is crass. I gave you an excellent description of myself and "proportional figure" is quite enough for the "dimensions" category. LIVE WITH IT! ;-) You'd be surprised...Mabey...I just dont know your definition of proportional...and I am perfectly fine with not knowing the measurements, but I cant resist debating why you wont give them to me, you have to understand, I do this for recreational sport.

PLEASE WRITE 'MIA IS NOT CRASS' ON THE BLACKBOARD 100 TIMES. THEN WRITE "IT IS NONE OF MY BUSINESS" 100 TIMES TOO.

THIS IS NOT A DEBATEABLE ISSUE. IT IS MY PERSONAL INFORMATION. DROP IT, PLEASE.

:rolleyes:[/b][/quote]

Fair nuff. I'm just going to leave it at that because I see that you are simply asserting your right to privacy. Please understand, I did not mean to offend or harass, I'm simply interested in human behavior, especially about, well, you get the idea, right? Why people think revealing information in a medium such as this that would be obvious in a real world encounter is an invasion of privacy is something that intrigues me. Why people kill intrigues me. Why people are morons intrigues me. Does that make any sense? Why people consider one thing rude and something else prefectly acceptable intrigues me.