Being gay is a choice.
by, 1st February 2012 at 06:07 AM (1170 Views)
Something sparked a thought in me today.
Being gay is a choice, but not in the way you may think, but maybe it is an insight into people claim it is.
My girlfriend was talking about BDSM with her Mom who "didn't want to understand it". At first this perplexed me, and I have run into this before. Why would someone be afraid to understand this? Then it struck me. If they understood it they would need to make a choice.
If I don't understand BDSM then I can't understand its appeal and I can't be drawn to it. If I am not drawn to it then I never need to accept it is part of me and I don't need to choose to accept it as part of me. I don't need to choose it is really who I am.
It is the same with being gay or bisexual and in this context the term homophobia makes much more sense. People reject it without understanding it because they are afraid they will need to make that choice. They don't want to make it. It is so much easier for them to be normal if they don't understand being abnormal.
Understanding is the first step in accepting that something is normal to a degree, and once we are there we are able to see these things as acceptable. Once we do that we can potentially see these things in ourselves and then we must choose to accept them as part of us or to deny them.
It strikes me this could be a key element of the conservative mindset. If we deny these things then we don't need to chose and we can stay "normal" like we should. If they refuse to understand then they never have to make that choice.0 Thanks, 0 Likes, 0 Dislikes
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