| So, I guess there should be an option 4:
Mr"X", using transactional analysis, explains to his parent, that he intended to do some work, but that Parent has taken the initiative away from Mr"X" by ordering the work done.
This way, Parent is impressed by Mr"X"'s mature response and open attitude, Mr "X" gains respect and earns points towards maturity and responsibility ratings by Parent.
Next time, Parent will probably wait to see if Mr"X" live up to expectations- if so, orders can become mere suggestions in future which treats Mr"X" as an adult.
In the battle ground sense, it is easy to see Mr"X" gaining ground willingly ceded by Parent.
Win-win. |