| This is true Lava. We dont live so badly..... due to the fact that I work full time. ... .and lets not even harp on welfare people today, I just dont have the patience.
I work very hard to raise these boys alone. I dont have Daddy backing me up. I once had a family, and no longer have one with a father heading it. best thing about 2004 is that I do not have to stay with someone who broke his kids heart and then mine too. When one is abusive and shows no respect for his kids he can go and good riddance.
Just because I am "working poor" doesnt mean that I am less of a parent. True, I should have planned better, and yes I guess I should not depend on them to be there for me as an elderly person. But I would hope the values I gave to them will make them want to be there. Until some women tries to take them away from me.
Syra. Yes, alot of kids do not owe their parents anything, and perhaps I should have thought of that before i posted. Some parents are abusive. In these cases, I do understand that they would not see their parent or even care what happens to them.
But I dont buy that they dont have time. Time is more valuable than money. You live simply and you will be much happier and stress free.
No one "needs" to go to Harvard or MIT or somewhere else to be happy and productive. It is not required to be so driven by money that you forget what matters. No one in this world cares more about you (most anyway) than your parent. Not your spouse (who can leave you) no one loves you like your parents (in most cases) and children OWE that much to them.
Since time began, we have honored our parent. Lack of time, money, ect is no excuse to abandon your parent. We should view them as honored, but in America they are a nuisance. This is so sad.......they are not a nuisance and only from THEM can we learn about the past, and real life experiences not found in books.
So, I disagree that children are not responsible for their elderly parents, as in every other nation except the US they are.
Even bad parents are left vulnerable and feeble, and should be honored for merely giving their children life. They could have aborted them.
Parents cannot be replaced. And we do not have to be rich to have kids. Lots of people just get angry at others for having too many, in their eyes.
To be honest, I had a baby at 18 because I wanted attention and someone to love. Really. Stupid? Yes. But it can be very inviting. Everyone fawns over you, you get lots of attention and love. You get presents, medical care, a man to love, or not (he left us 6 months along to pursue a pipe dream) and you get a little baby to take home. I remember thinking in the hospital "I cant belive they are letting me take this tiny little baby home" |