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Quote by: christianmathew  I orginally agreed with anmon, that society has started to go to hell and there are a lot of problems between women and men, but he seems to be taking this a little far.
To be fair, I guess that girls have added a lot to society since they became a larger part of society. I do just see a lot of problems between women and men. It should either be men in charge or women, not both. And it just seems that men take over because they are more physical, even though they aren't smarter.
I do have to say that men can do a lot more things better than women. You may see a few women construction workers, but men will always be a lot better at it than women because they are more physical. Leave the engineering to women, because they are a lot smarter. |
It's against my better judgement to post this personal of information, but hopefully you will learn something from it. (against my better judgement only because most people
don't learn the essential lessons of life until they live it)
A point was made about women doing men's jobs and it's one I'd like to expound on.
a little back ground:
I come from the stereotypical husband/ wife relationship. My mother raised five girls and my father worked three jobs to support us. Even so, we were barely above poverty level. We hardly ever got to see our dad unless our mom took us to the job site. So with both of them busting their asses to raise a family, both missed out on the opportunity to seek their own personal rewards. What happens when you get to the empty nest years? Your main goal in life is gone and often the next greatest joy in life comes with having grandchildren. My father missed out on being with his own children and all my mother knew was raising kids. To me, that's no life. The golden years my ass. That's when your health declines and you are too tired or sick to enjoy all that laboring you did over the years.
My husband's family was the same. His Dad made all the family decisions. His mom raised 7 children, three girls, four boys. (one died at birth) His dad worked two jobs plus they ran a family farm. His fathers objective in life was to retire one day and enjoy the grand kids. His mothers, being from the big city of Chicago, was to travel and see what was outside that 58 acre farm. (sorta reminded me of The Bridges of Madison County)
That said...
I entered the work force at 15. I never wanted to work in a no future job as hostess or cashier. I wanted a job with skills so I could support myself in the future. Often I was told "you can't do that..that's a man's job" which only made me more determined. With each succeeding job I out performed the men, was the highest paid, and earned their respect. (some weren't too happy when I took their jobs, but any other male could have done the same if they had worked as hard as myself) By the time my husband and I got married, I was the main bread winner. We pooled our funds and that afforded us many opportunities to enjoy the things we loved. We planned to continue doing them once we hit retirement age.
Neither my husband nor I wanted either of our parents marriages. The both seemed very unhappy with the choices they had made. We didn't want to live with those regrets. Our children were our main priority but we had our own hopes and dreams after they were grown. I sacrificed my goal of being a chef in my own restaurant for the good of the family because of the stereotypical discrimination against women in the work force. If I had been treated equally in pay I might have not had had to work two jobs to support the family while my husband got his business off the ground. Once it was established, we worked together to build it so eventually we could sell it and retire at a place of our dreams.
Well, that plan didn't work out. We were married 18 years, but just shy of being together 23. Our twelve years of hard work did provide a business I could sell and I do have job skills. I don't have to be at anyone's mercy or resort to stealing in order to provide for my kids and myself. Being able to tell an employer you work because you want to, not because you have to, is very empowering.
My kids look to me as a huge role model because I can carry on without the help of anyone else. I know how to maintain the house and yard. If there's something I don't know how to do, I learn. If I'm physically unable to do it, I hire someone.
This thing of women having to defend themselves...we typically don't put ourselves in those kind of situations. Most mature men I know don't either and if you think just because you are a man you can kick anyone's ass...sorry. Mistaken. There's always someone bigger and tougher than you that can push you around and it can be financially as well.
If more women and men understood all this we'd be much better off as a society. People need to stop raising their sons and daughters in these old fashioned gender roles.
True feminism doesn't destroy families or western society. It frees couples up to follow their dreams. They get to grow old together in a relationship of mutual respect. It's the solid foundation that I stand on today that was taught to me by examining how the previous generation's lives weren't as great as some would like to believe. I can look in the mirror completely confident that I'm a shining example of it working.