| There's a difference between self-control, independence or self determinism and being a "control freak"which by its very definition,implies excessive, compulsive need to have control beyond the p[oint where it is healthy for the person or those around them. For example the difference between someone who controls the amount they spend to achieve a balance between what they want and need and someone who counts every penny, denies themselves and others rights to money in order to satisfy some inner insecurity. Excess control , blatant or subtle, ruins lots of relationships and means that children grow up not able to take responsibility or partners become shut off, unfulfilled or frustrated. It also takes many different forms from aggression to avoidance. The real questionis why do you need to exercise that much control? What are you afraid of? |