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Quote by: Not You Again  I have a close friend who is Gay, during his childhood he was abused by paedophiles, now in his adult hood, although he’s been in a long term relationship, he has difficulty understanding where his sexuality came from.
He thinks being abused as a child turned him Gay.
I believe it was within his “genes”
Any opinions? |
I'll share a personal story with you.
I have a cousin who was severely sexual abused by his father starting from a very young age. As a young teen when he began to experience his own sexual desires, not knowing how to properly express them since he had learned from his own father a way of expressing that is unnatural, he began molesting other boys, mostly boys in his church. Someone eventually said something and the whole thing came out about my cousin being sexually abused by his own father, etc. My cousin ended up becoming the "black sheep" of the family because of it. His own sister refused to associate with him in any way (she too was involved in this abuse perpetuated by their dad, I think you can fill in the blanks as to why she didn't want to see her own brother once this came out). Because he could not specify a specific date when his father had abused him, his father went unpunished. He ended up in a rehab center because of the molestation of the other church boys. I remember going to visit him. What a sad business that was. My dad, myself, my uncle, and another one of my cousins had to "sneak" out to go visit with him because the rest of the family didn't know what to make of him anymore.
He became extremely confused about himself sexually. And understandably so. He never had a chance to figure himself out, that personal choice was thrust upon him before he could even begin to make heads or tails of it. At this point, he thought he was gay, but really didn't know. He was so lost when it came to sex.
For several years as an adult he lived with his male partner, but I understand they recently they broke up and he's been in and out of drug rehab centers. No one has heard from him for several months.
My point is, it is widely accepted that sexual abuse does cause sexual dysfunction. Please note I am
not calling homosexuality a sexual dysfunction. What I am saying is that sexual abuse will almost always cause the victim to have a number of problems throughout their life concerning sex, their sexuality, their own genitalia, etc.