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Quote by: texasdave  But many of my friends from that time are dead now. Drug abuse, AIDS, Hepatitis, liver disease from alcohol. One from suicide. They call them "gay" but most of my homosexual friends were not happy. And not because their behavior was not acceptable but because they just could not make most of their relationships work. |
Let me buy you a clue, son.
Society doesn't support or approve dating among gay teens like it does for hetero teens. For the most part, gay teens never get to participate in this important socialization process/ritual and most parents aren't receptive to their gay child's feelings, if they're aware of them at all.
In the case of gay boys, some find other outlets to vent their frustration and raging hormones, which explains why drug experimentation, anonymous sex, and STDs are so common.
Delayed emotional maturation should be no surprise either, since the dating process doesn't exist until gay teens escape parental control. Unfortunately, accumulated emotional deficits can interfere with school and/or work as a young gay adult "catches up" to their hetero contemporaries.
If they choose to focus on school/work, then emotional development of close personal relationships is further delayed. Having no practical experience, young gay adults enter the dating pool with years of pent-up, idealized fantasies of what dating, romance and intimacy should be like. They develop expectations based on those beliefs, many of which are unrealistic, and act on them.
There wouldn't be so many emotional problems among gayfolk if society acknowledged its contribution to the problem. Many dismiss the teen dating issue claiming gay people should stop acting like victims. Yet, these same people (like yourself) are quick to complain that homosexuals recruit teens when they're young, impressionable bundles of raging hormones.
The level of denial in these matters is, well,
breathtaking.