| I'm in college, the girls in the group that i am talking about are just a group of friends i suppose mostly in college, some in HS.
well the fights i'm referring to are ones in i've seen in high school, but not always, i've seen some adult women go at it in the same fashion.
seperate but equal used to be what they said about 'blacks' and 'whites', and then that never worked out because how can you ""seperate equally""? its a contradiction of terms. It was a bill i think, or an act ?? Anyway it didn't work out, maybe i'll go looking for that 'cuz i remember it from a history class.
::You are defining leadership in terms of the way a male would lead. The female qualities you mention are exactly the qualities needed to lead successfully and many males do have those qualities. Big Egos and a drive for power are negative qualities for leadership.::
When you see a woman leader who does not have these qualities, but a strong sense of the traits that women generally possess -- let me know. Or point out some in history. This way i can "define leadership in the terms a woman would lead"
Who would follow a woman who was sensitive to the other parties feelings to debate a subject? would you? and if you would.. would one of the reasons for following her just include that she is considerate? sensitive? compassionate? cautious?
I don't think those are good qualities for someone who has to make decisions 'on impulse / on demand / on-the-fly' which any good leader should be able to do logically and quickly.
What does that do though women leading with those said traits? because normally those things are to impress/cater to the males imperfections, inadequacies, or fix what males don't have sexually. but in this case, what void does it fill? whats the purpose? It feels like its just to show that women 'can' and thats great, but what purpose?
Men like power/their ego/uh for example cars because it shows material posession, some things women lack that should definately be kept up to a man. Take this example into consideration; what if a women loved power? their ego? and had a horrific&obsessive fascination with the inner workings of a car? she would be very boy-ish, and who would that attract? probably submissive men or lesbian women, or women who like that she has power. This paragraph just shows that the reasons for these inflected values that each gender has is to attract the other gender of what they are lacking. If you're ready to change that, go ahead, but i hope you don't bring too many women along with you because I need one to do shit that I cannot, and help me in ways men [HOPEFULLY] cannot.
Like anything that deals with people talking about women, you will probably be offended by what I am saying because it is 'speaking directly to you' but don't take it as an attack on your feelings. I'm just stating that this is how it works so far, and if you want to change it, then change it, nothing is stopping you except your own lack of willpower. Submissive behavior is also dominant, if you don't like it, then don't conform-- make men submissive, see if that relieves you. If it does not, then hey, at least u have more to talk about! :) which brings me to another point, men are known for not being as sociable, you see them acting impulsively, don't talk as much, get more bullshit done in the time alotted. Women on the other hand are more encouraging, more sociable, do not act impulsively, and they spend a little less time acting. Not to say that they do not get the same amount done. The quality of work is put in to different areas depending on the woman or mans values.
also you missed what i said, women do not generally approach this situation with a leadership persona, and if they do they have had something affect them thats given them drive to show people that women can do it. Like i said, I know women can do it, its just that there isn't the initial drive to do it, or willing to do it on their own terms.
i've kinda lost directive in my post and am just saying everything i can think of about women and men.. stop me plz! Ahhh! |