[G. Adams]

Quote by: Osborn F Enready Great answers, or along the lines of what I was questioning anyway. Thanks for sharing, and please, as more people read, please share. As a side-question, how many people "strive" to be any of the above, such as to be considered a "gentleman" or "lady" for example? I for example, strive to be a "gentleman" in public, or around a "lady", but when I am among my male friends, and even some "un-ladylike" female friends, I am a bit looser with the language, the topic of conversation, etc. I am not necessarily more comfortable either way, and I think for myself a mix is beneficial, but at times both are taxing. How about you?

I spent so long trying to be a gentleman growing up, and it got me nowhere with women other than being a good friend. I've found most women relax more around me when I'm cocky, cheeky and confident. I still go through the "set pieces" of being a gentleman, like opening doors, helping with bags, walking nearest the road etc but those are habitual these days rather than intentional.