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and, an open relationship... i couldn't handle the thought of my girlfriend, who i love with all my heart, getting boned by some random guy. that has to open up a very strange dynamic to the relationship... gotta be pretty awkward imo
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That depends on how well you can separate sex and love. Not being the particularly sensitive or insecure type it doesn't seem to impact me at all, I have no problems separating the two.
After all unless you are going out with a nun she has slept with other men before, are you jealous of them or the ones who will come after you? Its really just a matter of temporal perspective.
I have no sense of jealousy as IMO jealousy stems from fear of loss and if there is one thing I believe in its living life with no fears. If someone chooses to leave you then there is not a hell of a lot you can do about it its their choice and good luck to them if it makes them happy. I don't believe in fighting to make someone stay with you who doesn't want to be there.
Also like in any decent relationship, trust is the cornerstone. Most people seem to confuse trust with monogamy when in reality they are completely different things.
I also love my girlfriend a great deal and the greatest gift you can give IMO in a committed relationship is freedom to live life exactly the way the other partner wants to live it and to encourag them to be who they are.
In other words we get the best aspects of a committed relationship ie we can build a life together with the excitement of a single life. Its also easier to keep single and couples as friends as you can still go on the pull with your mates if you like. Like last weekend sometimes you can go on the pull with your partner and thats pretty exciting as well. :)
Fact is I think an open relationship is really more stable in a lot of ways than a traditional one as nothing is really forbidden except secrets.
Another argument for it from either sex's perspective is, could you eat one food for the rest of your life without craving something else? I know I couldn't and most people can't leading to high divorce rates because people can't think for themselves and do whats going to make their relationships work rather than folowing obsolete 18th century church based marriage rules.