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Quote by: Samildanach Had an interesting debate with my gf on the weekend. we have an open relationship currently, ie she has a lover she ses once a week and currently I am looking. Went out on the weekend and ended up getting horrifcally drunk and snogging 'in my gf's opinion an ugly bird which she found highly insulting' I will put my hand up as guilty for this one as I was pretty drunk at the time. Then I got to thinking.
You know....ugly birds might be the way to go....after all you dont have to chat them up, you dont have to buy them drinks and they are just plain grateful to go home with you.
The fact is you can put in zero effort and if you are only after a one night stand then it beats hanging around with a group of guys all trying to score one woman when you could be drinking...call me shallow but thats the way I am beginning to see it  |
Yeah, you are right, that thought was very shallow! You might watch the video "Shallow Hal Wants a Gal", as it deals with your question. It was this kind of thinking that caused me to create a rule for myself. What starts in the bar ends in the bar.
It is narissistic to think a woman would be grateful to go home with someone so shallow. They will feel good if they believe you desire them and want to be with them, but that is a lie isn't it? It isn't them you desire, but only satisfying your own need at the moment, and when they realize this, it is very painful! This is called using and because it results in hurting someone, I don't think this is an admirable thing to do. Often when people get involved in such using relationship, both the male and female can become hardened users, and this has a negative effect on the whole of society. It leads to accepting this as reality and what to expect in our relationships. Not a good thing. It seriously harms human dignity and trust.
I hope you at least use a condom to avoid becoming infected, and spreading disease.
Sterilization is best for avoiding pregnancy. Personally, unless a man is sure he is steril, I don't think you he should be having sex with a woman, he can not love and honor, and rasie a child with, so I also hope you have taken care of that too. Unless, you can realize how harmful this behavior is to others and society as a whole, it might not be a good thing for you to reporduce.