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Quote by: syracusa ...or I could have entitled this thread the "mediocrity and stupidity of the typical American woman".
In the past year and a half I have been frequenting several parenting and baby-related forums simply because I reached that stage in my life (I have a 6 months old).
The problem is that such forums seem to be moderated by such "consensus/harmony" -obssessed vultures that it is basically impossible to start any meaningful, more complex conversation about child-rearing. As soon as that happens, someone gets sanctimoniously offended and the moderators delete the thread.
Any post that goes beyond "oh, how cute our babies are" is considered a "hot, controversial" topic and it is automatically not accepted. Everyone is supposed to be brought to the lowest common denominator - "dumb and happy cow" style.
Got a question: is this how Americans like their women? High-pitched, eternally dressed in pink and idiotic?
The only forum I have been to so far where things are actually DISCUSSED is this one; but then again, this is a male-populated forum with no interest in baby-rearing. Shheeeeeshhh... |
Syracusa: I have been married for 28 years and my wife and I raised two children now ages 22 and 24. One is a teacher, and the other a factory worker, working on his career skills.
My wife retired from the labor force to mother our children about 24 years ago. Her chosen vocation of motherhood is mocked by many peole who do not realize the value of a stay at home working mom. I refuse to put down career moms but we chose a different path. We are financially secure because I worked hard out in the career world and she worked hard in the home. It was a partnerhip.
Young children need their parents. I don't care what all of the experts write about child rearing in today's world. The more time you can devote to your children, the better off those kids will be in the long run. In my opinion, there are way too many selfish adults today who want the whole deal. Career, children, money, etc etc. What they end up with is a little bit of each component and never achieve any of the choices properly. Thus their success is hollow by age 65. Something has to give, and when both parents work out of the home, then it is usually the children. You can't buy time or love, both of which you sacrifice when both adults in a child rearing household do when they work outside the home. Remember to be careful what you choose because you can't buy either love or time back again. Maybe I am old fashioned, but the traditional family is the one that I was raised, and the one that my children were raised, and the one I trust the most.
And btw, my wife is neither idiotic nor high pitched in pink. She could probably teach Martha Stewart a few things and is a very interesting woman who usually is the life of the parties and social events we attend. Just because a woman chooses to work inside the home building a life for her family, doesn't mean she is condemned to a life of irrelevant knowledge only to be appreciated by other moms. It is a shallow person indeed who doesn't appreciate the experience of the stay at home mom. We would not have traded our choices for anything in this world. Best of luck to you.