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Quote by: Flip Jackson I think anger can get some good stuff done and is the only way to deal with some people. The more laid back and happy you are, the more efecttive anger will be. I personally don't like getting angry, not because of what other people think, but because of the sour mood it puts me in.
The way you put it makes sense, and gives plenty of good reasons to express anger. I think it ahould be used as sparingly as possible though. Anger itself is also used as a way to make others conform, not only to get out of conformity. People don't like to mess with those that are angry. They comply with shouted orders to get the angry person to shut up. Then when the person sees that they got the desired results, they continue the bahvior.
Anger should never be the first reaction, nor should it be used regularly if it is to be effective. I suppose it does have good uses if used appropriately. |
You hit the nail on the head! I am uncomfortable with my anger because I am using it to get my way. My mother said I act like the Queen of Hearts in Alice in Wonderland, yelling "off with their heads". I do recognize this quality in myself. In fact, I thought of changing my name to "Queen of Hearts".
And yet, I think my sense of right and wrong, and my feelings that motivate me to speak or act, serve a purpose. I wonder if a greater sense of person power and self confidence, would make me more like a Saint Benard than a little Terrier. I know there are times when I have been in a position of greater power, and this does wonders for how I react to the world. When we have the power, problems are small and a matter of rational action. When we feel helpless, LOOK OUT!
Hum, any tricks to preceiving ourselves as holding power? Any social adjustments we might make to making feel empowered? I am darn sure there would be no suicide bombers if these people felt they had personal power any other way.